[Rushne]

If your watch has been serviced or made in the last 10-15 years with modern lubricants. Drying out of lubricants is not an issue.

So given that, you just need to decide if you enjoy setting the complications, don’t use a winder. If you think it’s a pain in the behind. Do use a winder.
A watch sitting in a winder does add wear. But not as much as if you were wearing it.
By wear, I do only mean that the escapement is locking and unlocking, so of course there is some where there and in the gear train. But it’s not the same amount of wear as if you were wearing it while using a jack hammer :)