I hope this is resolved to your satisfaction Mark.
I am not sure how good your relationship will be with this Rolex if you decide to keep it as it seems to me that the enjoyment will have been tarnished.
Might be better in the long term if you were to find another.
Many years ago I bought my DayDate from z-art-of-time in the States and it was a bit tight.
Kris sent me an extra link at no charge.
I have always highly recommended him and that is how these transactions should be.