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2careless · 16 May 2010, 02:46 PM

Turn it another way maybe the guy was testing you Faith - see if you would gloss over those issues, test if you're desperate to have a date.

Either way I don't see how you can get a balanced, healthy relationship with this guy. Dump him and cut your dinner loss.

sleddog · 16 May 2010, 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by dalip

Hi Faith...you haven't stated how the dinner conversation went....how was it? If you enjoyed his company then maybe these other things are worth looking over (for now!) and you agree to a second date...after all where's the harm? These mishaps could be something that you're laughing at with him over time. You know to trust your instincts...and if it's not a definite no..then I'd go on a second date..give him a chance! You can even remind him of the wallet when he picks you up!!

Wise words my good friend!!

Faith,if the conversation was good and a mild connection was made..Go on one more date,make sure he'll pay,and see where it leads....No harm,no foul... Men can forget proper etticate(?)!!!!(not their wallet)!

Taffi Abernathy · 16 May 2010, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by sleddog1000

wise words my good friend!!

Faith,if the conversation was good and a mild connection was made..go on one more date,make sure he'll pay,and see where it leads....no harm,no foul... Men can forget proper etticate(?)!!!!(not their wallet)!

One more date? The guy wears a seiko!! Where's my salami log so I can beat him into another zip code?

sleddog · 16 May 2010, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Taffi Abernathy

One more date? The guy wears a seiko!! Where's my salami log so I can beat him into another zip code?

Faith...I have a Seiko!!! (should I be upset..?)!!! No.
You are the judge in the story,follow your heart!! I can only speculate....

Taffi Abernathy · 16 May 2010, 03:16 PM

[QUOTE=sea-dweller;1860337]Besides the wallet and door, were there any other "deal breakers" [COLOR="DarkSlateGray"][B][SIZE="4"]

Now that you mention it . . . he killed two people in Butte, Montana then left them for dead.

Saxon007 · 16 May 2010, 03:20 PM

[QUOTE=Taffi Abernathy;1860444]

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Originally Posted by sea-dweller

Besides the wallet and door, were there any other "deal breakers" [COLOR="DarkSlateGray"][B][SIZE="4"]

Now that you mention it . . . he killed two people in Butte, Montana then left them for dead.

You reckon that's where he got the Seiko?

He should choose better victims...

I saw the title of the thread and opened it hoping for pointers.

Taffi Abernathy · 16 May 2010, 03:22 PM

I must use logic and prudent judgment in the decision-making process regarding whether to date this man again. So I'll put this out there . . . who has a Ouija Board I can borrow?

Bisquitlips · 16 May 2010, 03:23 PM

Inexcusable on every count. Embarrassing to any true gentleman.

He either doesn't have two brain cells to rub together or is a scammer. Nervousness is not a viable reason for any of this in my opinion. Either way the boy is gone if it were me.

Run!

gmh1013 · 16 May 2010, 03:23 PM

check please!

sakuraba · 16 May 2010, 03:25 PM

When I go out with someone I really like, I put my best foot forward (advanced planning on the restaurant, nice clothes, clean LV, bring wallet). Needless to say, gentlemanly behavior is an absolute must. Forgetting the wallet and the lack of chivalry are red flags in my book, but I guess not everyone is the same.

If you liked the conversation, and can look past the seiko, I'd give it another shot.

Taffi Abernathy · 16 May 2010, 03:28 PM

[QUOTE=Saxon007;1860450]

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Originally Posted by Taffi Abernathy

You reckon that's where he got the Seiko?

He should choose better victims...

I saw the title of the thread and opened it hoping for pointers.

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Originally Posted by Bisquitlips

Inexcusable on every count. Embarrassing to any true gentleman.

He either doesn't have two brain cells to rub together or is a scammer. Nervousness is not a viable reason for any of this in my opinion. Either way the boy is gone if it were me.

Run!

I'm running fast and running far cause he b Satan!

Bisquitlips · 16 May 2010, 03:31 PM

[QUOTE=Taffi Abernathy;1860462]

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Originally Posted by Saxon007

I'm running fast and running far cause he b Satan!

And we all know that Angels have no business with a devil!

Taffi Abernathy · 16 May 2010, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Dr.Brian

I considered a date an interview and an audition. Showcase who you are, no need to panic! Either they're in or out.

So how did your wife pass her interview and audition? Did she perform a tasteful soft shoe or did she simply belt out a classic from the big band era?

rr-nyc · 16 May 2010, 03:42 PM

Like others said, forgetting a wallet can happen and it is embarrassing however it sounds cheesy to say that you have to let him take you out again because he owes you money. While it may have been his way of making light of the situation, it can seem like a cheap ploy to get a free dinner and a second date.

If it were me that forgot my wallet, I would have a) insisted to pay you back upon leaving the restaurant or b) called someone to get my wallet of drop off cash.

I have my own story about forgetting my wallet. I was taking out my wife (then girlfriend) to Alain Ducasse. We arrive and when I was checking our coats, thats when I noticed I forgot my wallet. I was temporarily living in NJ at the time so I couldn't drive back to get it without ruining the entire evening and my girlfriend had a small purse that could hold makeup, ID and a cell phone but no wallet. I told the maitre' d and he said that he could charge the dinner to the credit card I gave when making the reservation. I was so relieved!

sleddog · 16 May 2010, 03:48 PM

Faith,You already have decided how the story ends.....and I agree with you 100%!!
There really is no comeback for forgetting your(his) wallet...!!

Keep searching....The right guy will come your way!!

TerryF · 16 May 2010, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Tools

Somehow I suspect that this gentleman gets a lot of free meals.......

x10

keschete · 16 May 2010, 04:36 PM

Faith,

Drop him, if he can not remember his wallet and he can't open doors.....well, enough said. It isn't like the guy is a teenager! You wouldn't be happy with someone so disorganized (at best) or cheap (at worst).

Plus you obviously did not "feel good" about the date. That is a big red flag!

I really wish Rudy had a brother, I could hook you up with!

SG 1550 · 16 May 2010, 05:19 PM

Maybe he didn't really forget his wallet or to hold open the car door. Perhaps he didn't much enjoy the date either.

keschete · 16 May 2010, 05:25 PM

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Originally Posted by SG 1550

Maybe he didn't really forget his wallet or to hold open the car door. Perhaps he didn't much enjoy the date either.

If a person doesn't enjoy a date, they should just not make another date. To not pay for the food and not open doors for a lady, just shows a lack of class.

If you do not like your date, you should simply not book another date. You should not be rude and disrespect your date.

Amiamit · 16 May 2010, 05:27 PM

I went on a first date once and forgot my wallet. I was also so flustered that I dropped my drink and ... it was an awkward night to say the least. But she did go out with me again and we dated very happily for 4 years and now, 14 years after we broke up, are still friends.

Andad · 16 May 2010, 05:49 PM

You deserve better Faith but then being screwed means something entirely different down under.

Jocke · 16 May 2010, 07:39 PM

The wallet - Is unforgivable IMHO, a man never show up without it.

The door - Is ok to forget, it depends on the situation. I will never run to the door to be first at it.

The solution - If the first date was okey except those two things so have I give the guy a second chance. But leave
your wallet at home this time and see what happends.

Good luck, whatever you decide.

Jocke · 16 May 2010, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Amiamit

I went on a first date once and forgot my wallet. I was also so flustered that I dropped my drink and ... it was an awkward night to say the least. But she did go out with me again and we dated very happily for 4 years and now, 14 years after we broke up, are still friends.

Maybe you are still friends because she still waiting for the money she pay at the first date.

Rscmaine · 16 May 2010, 08:28 PM

Point 1) NOBODY forgets their wallet on a first date.

Point 2) See Point 1.

Door opening is simple good breeding - for that you can blame his mother.

Point 3) Don't date the Mother either.

If I were single, Taffi, and good looking enough to dare to ask, I would ask you out in a minute.

And pay.

And hold your chair.

And open every door.

And listen.

Keep looking hun...he's out there!

Kokyuryoku · 16 May 2010, 08:36 PM

Kia ora Faith,

Since Kaya was the only female voice, I asked my wife her thoughts and after reading through your story and the other posts she said,

DUMP HIM!

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Originally Posted by pz93c

Bah.

Bad nookie is better than no nookie.

Are you kidding?

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Originally Posted by Dr.Brian

I think the title should have been how NOT to get screwed on a Saturday night.
If I am anything I am civilized. You deserve better. If he "forgot" his wallet intentionally to encourage a second date, that is even more pathetic. (and certainly possible/probable?)
To the curb with that guy.

Sound advice. I think he probably did it on purpose. While I often forget my cell phone, I have yet to forget my wallet.

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Originally Posted by Taffi Abernathy

One more date? The guy wears a seiko!! Where's my salami log so I can beat him into another zip code?

I'll forgive the Seiko, but the wallet and door thing are definitely deserving of a salami beating

Quote:

Originally Posted by directioneng

You deserve better Faith but then being screwed means something entirely different down under.

I know, that's what I thought too

I have to admit though, I was intrigued by the title

bewithabob · 16 May 2010, 08:56 PM

faith
now i dun figgurrd out dat
his problum aint that he aint got no breedin.
mor lahklee he got sum big in breedin

bewithabob · 16 May 2010, 08:57 PM

or chromed teeth

spuds · 16 May 2010, 09:59 PM

IMO Faith, if the guy was worth seeing again you wouldn't have posted this thread.

I think you already know the answer......

Idle Swede · 16 May 2010, 10:11 PM

Pheew, I read through this whole thread again but need something clarified?

Did you get screwed or not?

Lion · 16 May 2010, 10:12 PM

It's probably time to cut your losses and move on!!!

16 May 2010, 03:16 PM	#35
Taffi Abernathy "TRF" Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Real Name: Faith Location: Philadelphia, PA Watch: TT DJ, SS DJ Posts: 4,053	[QUOTE=sea-dweller;1860337]Besides the wallet and door, were there any other "deal breakers" [COLOR="DarkSlateGray"][B][SIZE="4"] Now that you mention it . . . he killed two people in Butte, Montana then left them for dead. __________________ Sarcasm is my second language.

16 May 2010, 03:22 PM	#37
Taffi Abernathy "TRF" Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Real Name: Faith Location: Philadelphia, PA Watch: TT DJ, SS DJ Posts: 4,053	I must use logic and prudent judgment in the decision-making process regarding whether to date this man again. So I'll put this out there . . . who has a Ouija Board I can borrow? __________________ Sarcasm is my second language.

16 May 2010, 03:23 PM	#38
Bisquitlips 2024 Pledge Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Real Name: Richard Location: USA Watch: YM Deep Space Posts: 12,504	Inexcusable on every count. Embarrassing to any true gentleman. He either doesn't have two brain cells to rub together or is a scammer. Nervousness is not a viable reason for any of this in my opinion. Either way the boy is gone if it were me. Run! __________________ Rolex Yacht-Master 40mm (SS-YG / Deep Space MOP) 16623 Breitling Aerospace Titanium / 18K with UTC. Omega Speedmaster 3510.50 Oris TT1 Pro Diver Regulator 43MM

16 May 2010, 03:25 PM	#40
sakuraba "TRF" Member Join Date: May 2009 Real Name: Jib Location: SJ, California Watch: sun dial Posts: 8,189	When I go out with someone I really like, I put my best foot forward (advanced planning on the restaurant, nice clothes, clean LV, bring wallet). Needless to say, gentlemanly behavior is an absolute must. Forgetting the wallet and the lack of chivalry are red flags in my book, but I guess not everyone is the same. If you liked the conversation, and can look past the seiko, I'd give it another shot. __________________ F 14000 AirKing black F 16710 GMT Pepsi F 16570 Explorer II white T 16600 SD D 16610 LV "fine quality is remembered long after the pain of spending money" -Steve Mulholland

16 May 2010, 03:48 PM	#45
sleddog TRF Moderator & 2024 DATE-JUST41 Patron Join Date: Jul 2007 Real Name: Rob Location: Nearby. Posts: 24,907	Faith,You already have decided how the story ends.....and I agree with you 100%!! There really is no comeback for forgetting your(his) wallet...!! Keep searching....The right guy will come your way!! __________________ He who wears a Rolex is always on time, even when late!! TRF's "After Dark" Bar & Nightclub Patron-Founding Member..

16 May 2010, 02:46 PM	#31
2careless "TRF" Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Melbourne, AU Watch: Pepsi Posts: 4,370	Turn it another way maybe the guy was testing you Faith - see if you would gloss over those issues, test if you're desperate to have a date. Either way I don't see how you can get a balanced, healthy relationship with this guy. Dump him and cut your dinner loss.

16 May 2010, 03:23 PM	#39
gmh1013 Banned Join Date: Jun 2008 Real Name: greg Location: Tempe AZ Watch: GMT Posts: 5,703	check please!

16 May 2010, 03:42 PM	#44
rr-nyc Liar & Ratbag Join Date: Nov 2009 Real Name: Renato Location: NYC / Miami Beach Watch: Rolex Daytona Posts: 5,344	Like others said, forgetting a wallet can happen and it is embarrassing however it sounds cheesy to say that you have to let him take you out again because he owes you money. While it may have been his way of making light of the situation, it can seem like a cheap ploy to get a free dinner and a second date. If it were me that forgot my wallet, I would have a) insisted to pay you back upon leaving the restaurant or b) called someone to get my wallet of drop off cash. I have my own story about forgetting my wallet. I was taking out my wife (then girlfriend) to Alain Ducasse. We arrive and when I was checking our coats, thats when I noticed I forgot my wallet. I was temporarily living in NJ at the time so I couldn't drive back to get it without ruining the entire evening and my girlfriend had a small purse that could hold makeup, ID and a cell phone but no wallet. I told the maitre' d and he said that he could charge the dinner to the credit card I gave when making the reservation. I was so relieved!

16 May 2010, 04:36 PM	#47
keschete "TRF" Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Real Name: Kaya Location: Louisiana Watch: 116500 Posts: 3,575	Faith, Drop him, if he can not remember his wallet and he can't open doors.....well, enough said. It isn't like the guy is a teenager! You wouldn't be happy with someone so disorganized (at best) or cheap (at worst). Plus you obviously did not "feel good" about the date. That is a big red flag! I really wish Rudy had a brother, I could hook you up with! __________________ GMT II BLNR, Submariner, Submariner Serti, Datejust, Daytona C, TT Yacht Master, Hulk Submariner, Pepsi GMT II

16 May 2010, 05:19 PM	#48
SG 1550 Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: England Posts: 39	Maybe he didn't really forget his wallet or to hold open the car door. Perhaps he didn't much enjoy the date either.

16 May 2010, 05:27 PM	#50
Amiamit "TRF" Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: India Watch: Rolex no-date Sub Posts: 53	I went on a first date once and forgot my wallet. I was also so flustered that I dropped my drink and ... it was an awkward night to say the least. But she did go out with me again and we dated very happily for 4 years and now, 14 years after we broke up, are still friends.

16 May 2010, 05:49 PM	#51
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16 May 2010, 07:39 PM	#52
Jocke 2024 ROLEX DATEJUST41 Pledge Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Real Name: Jocke Location: Sweden Watch: A dozen of Rolex's Posts: 22,519	The wallet - Is unforgivable IMHO, a man never show up without it. The door - Is ok to forget, it depends on the situation. I will never run to the door to be first at it. The solution - If the first date was okey except those two things so have I give the guy a second chance. But leave your wallet at home this time and see what happends. Good luck, whatever you decide. __________________ This message is written in perfect swenglish. What is best a custom Rolex or a Rolex that is stuck in custom? Buy a professional camera and you´re a professional photographer, buy a flute and you own a flute.

16 May 2010, 08:28 PM	#54
Rscmaine "TRF" Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Real Name: Nat Parkinson Location: Maine, USA Watch: me pull a rabbit.. Posts: 1,196	Point 1) NOBODY forgets their wallet on a first date. Point 2) See Point 1. Door opening is simple good breeding - for that you can blame his mother. Point 3) Don't date the Mother either. If I were single, Taffi, and good looking enough to dare to ask, I would ask you out in a minute. And pay. And hold your chair. And open every door. And listen. Keep looking hun...he's out there! __________________ When the alien spaceships actually landed, to everyone's surprise, it turned out that the world's governments had not been hiding anything. They were just as clueless as the rest of us!

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16 May 2010, 09:59 PM	#58
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16 May 2010, 10:11 PM	#59
Idle Swede Suspended Join Date: Oct 2008 Real Name: Leo Location: Boca Raton Posts: 13,820	Pheew, I read through this whole thread again but need something clarified? Did you get screwed or not?

16 May 2010, 10:12 PM	#60
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