Story of my life….

[Chiboy]

Poor Paul comes here looking for a little sympathy and a chuckle, and gets the Tough Love speech. Happy Friday! lol

Paul, you do seem like a very nice guy online. Good luck finding whatever you are looking for!

[OYptL]

Telling her you were an 18 driver a couple of yrs ago very well may have made her think twice.

[JParm]

Your biggest loss is not being able to go back into that store ever again, Paul.

In all seriousness, I'd just laugh it off and make a joke of it the very next time you go in there. Put it behind you!

[MrGoat]

Originally Posted by JParm

Your biggest loss is not being able to go back into that store ever again, Paul.

In all seriousness, I'd just laugh it off and make a joke of it the very next time you go in there. Put it behind you!

This too!!


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[Knappo 1307]

Originally Posted by TheVTCGuy

There was some good outcome of this, as I was crawling out of the store I found a penny on the floor.

But was it heads up?

[colpol]

You had a 50/ 50 chance

This time No/ next time yes …

[White Collar Boy]

Patronising encouragement post: good on you! Keep working the room! I thought it was funny and sweet, and it sounds like she enjoys riffing with you. Keep hitting that treadmill and outlive her boyfriend.

[White Collar Boy]

Originally Posted by JParm

Your biggest loss is not being able to go back into that store ever again, Paul.

Ordinarily I think so too, but it sounds like Paul’s humor and humility took some of the awkwardness out of the situation. I think it would be fine and only slightly embarrassing the first time back, if they get along as well as it sounds. I did the same thing with a waitress years ago, she even went out on a “date” with me only to talk about her long-term boyfriend! I told her, “Oh, I had no idea and thought this was something different.” It was OK after.

TRF romantic hive mind.

[daveathall]

Hey Paul. Her loss mate.

[rmagoo57]

Originally Posted by TheVTCGuy

I asked a (very) young lady out yesterday. I have dated younger women in the past, even had a three + year with a nice woman who was much younger then myself. Of course it was not permanent, and we both knew that, but we had a great time together, that’s all that really matters right? So.. on to yesterday…

There is a store that I frequent, well, I’ll never go in there again as long as I live but the manager is a young (30 ish) lady that I have known for a long time. We talk and joke a lot when I am in there, I make her laugh and she seemed to enjoy my company. So, what the hell, yesterday I asked her to lunch.

Me: “Let me take you to lunch tomorrow, by any chance are you attracted to short, fat, ugly, old men with no money or personality?”

Her: (Long pause, looks at me). “You’re not fat….. … … … “

I guess I am just the rest of them…. Sigh….

Oh, she was very nice but… “has a boyfriend” Wink wink.

Is it too late to become a Priest?

She could have said "you're not that fat...."!!

Good luck with the ladies of any age going forward.

[superdog]

Originally Posted by White Collar Boy

Ordinarily I think so too, but it sounds like Paul’s humor and humility took some of the awkwardness out of the situation. I think it would be fine and only slightly embarrassing the first time back, if they get along as well as it sounds. I did the same thing with a waitress years ago, she even went out on a “date” with me only to talk about her long-term boyfriend! I told her, “Oh, I had no idea and thought this was something different.” It was OK after.

TRF romantic hive mind.

I’d absolutely go in.

I have gotten rejected so many times it’s impossible to count. I always go back and act like nothing is wrong (if there is reason for me to do so)…because there is nothing wrong. I’m never ever rude, and I never make anyone feel uncomfortable. If anything, it’s best simply to normalize it by being NORMAL. Novel thought process, I know.

You gotta shoot your shot. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Be the wolf. The friendly cuddly kind that just doesn’t care, and knows they are the boss.

[superdog]

Another point for those that get intimidated by women, which I am one of.

It’s scary to put yourself out there. It’s scary to face rejection. Absolutely.

But, I have hung out with a lot of absolute studs in my day. And I have seen them all get rejected multiple times. Sure, I’ve seen them score too. But anyone who is saying they kill it with woman and don’t get rejected is likely lying. Like the gambler that only wins.

And lastly, to my point above, if you handle rejection well, it often times endears you to the woman that rejected you. If you are funny, and charming, and don’t take it too seriously, often times it’ll open doors.

Trust me.

It’s the same thing as sales. I’ve gotten a ton of sales out of being a gracious loser.

[White Collar Boy]

Originally Posted by superdog

I’d absolutely go in.

I have gotten rejected so many times it’s impossible to count. I always go back and act like nothing is wrong (if there is reason for me to do so)…because there is nothing wrong. I’m never ever rude, and I never make anyone feel uncomfortable. If anything, it’s best simply to normalize it by being NORMAL. Novel thought process, I know.

You gotta shoot your shot. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Be the wolf. The friendly cuddly kind that just doesn’t care, and knows they are the boss.

Love this post and back it 100 per cent.

[superdog]

Originally Posted by White Collar Boy

Love this post and back it 100 per cent.

I wish I had the wolf emoji I could post here.

Rock on brother.

[Danny83]

Paul I tell ya you gotta go to the bingo hall on Sundays

[Andad]

I’m with Seth on this Paul.

Talk yourself up not down and let’s hope that the other kids on this thread can kiss and make up.

Remember we do have ladies on TRF.

[East Bay Rider]

Agree with what's been said. The older, confident man with a world of interesting life experiences is sure to be more attractive to a young woman barely out of her 20's than self depreciating humility, even dressed as humor.
But what do I know. My dating life slowed drastically after marrying my bride 30 years ago.

[Travelair007]

Originally Posted by TheVTCGuy

I asked a (very) young lady out yesterday. I have dated younger women in the past, even had a three + year with a nice woman who was much younger then myself. Of course it was not permanent, and we both knew that, but we had a great time together, that’s all that really matters right? So.. on to yesterday…

There is a store that I frequent, well, I’ll never go in there again as long as I live but the manager is a young (30 ish) lady that I have known for a long time. We talk and joke a lot when I am in there, I make her laugh and she seemed to enjoy my company. So, what the hell, yesterday I asked her to lunch.

Me: “Let me take you to lunch tomorrow, by any chance are you attracted to short, fat, ugly, old men with no money or personality?”

Her: (Long pause, looks at me). “You’re not fat….. … … … “

I guess I am just the rest of them…. Sigh….

Oh, she was very nice but… “has a boyfriend” Wink wink.

Is it too late to become a Priest?

Paul
Sounds to me like you did great…! Can’t help if someone is already in a relationship.

How about I be your wingman one of these days? I could grow a moustache and we can reenact Top Gun

[JasoninDenver]

The best thing I EVER did in my dating life was to practice rejection. A LOT!!!

Eventually, the fear went away (along with the self-deprecating defense mechanisms) and I started to actually talk to women. That is when the magic can happen because you are 100% yourself and not interested in wasting time with people who have other priorities. A rejection is a gift to you to avoid wasting time with someone not really into you. Nothing more. Nothing less.

[superdog]

Originally Posted by JasoninDenver

The best thing I EVER did in my dating life was to practice rejection. A LOT!!!

Eventually, the fear went away (along with the self-deprecating defense mechanisms) and I started to actually talk to women. That is when the magic can happen because you are 100% yourself and not interested in wasting time with people who have other priorities. A rejection is a gift to you to avoid wasting time with someone not really into you. Nothing more. Nothing less.

This guy gets it.

[Jocke]

Buy a dog instead, it will always love you.

[GB-man]

I agree with jocke on this

[1William]

Good job for having the guts to ask.

[mountainjogger]

You be you Paul. If you have the balls to fly a fighter jet, you are already at a different level than many. And, more important than that, you are a genuinely good guy. In short, you have a s*** ton more going for you than most.

Self deprecating humor can work to break the ice. And if that is your comfort zone, to break the ice, I say fine.

But a little goes a long ways. And were I of the opposite gender, and in the market, I would be more interested in getting to know the real you. Because there is a lot to like.

[airchitect]

Brother remember that you’re the prize. All I have to say. Good luck.


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[BNA/LION]

If at first you don't succeed...try, try, try again!

[Boopie]

Originally Posted by Andad

I’m with Seth on this Paul.

Talk yourself up not down and let’s hope that the other kids on this thread can kiss and make up.

Remember we do have ladies on TRF.

Yup!

From one Corvette owner to another…

Women (at least, mature women, regardless of age) like confident (not to be confused with cocky) men with a sense of humor. It’s one thing to poke fun at yourself, but another to put yourself down. You have a lot to offer! Good luck!

[Speedbird-1]

Don't give up so easily Paul!
If you really, REALLY like her, keep at it, if she's not married, she's 'fair game'.
Women LOVE to be woo'd.
Why not write to her, that's WRITE, not email, text or 'message'...write to her, telling her exactly how you feel. Don't apologise for being you, just open your heart, tell her what you like about her, and lay your feelings out clear and precise.

You've only her to lose!

"Faint heart never won fair lady"



ps. Don't forget to put your address on the letter.....GOOD LUCK!!

[dmash]

Originally Posted by Speedbird-1

Don't give up so easily Paul!
If you really, REALLY like her, keep at it, if she's not married, she's 'fair game'.
Women LOVE to be woo'd.
Why not write to her, that's WRITE, not email, text or 'message'...write to her, telling her exactly how you feel. Don't apologise for being you, just open your heart, tell her what you like about her, and lay your feelings out clear and precise.

You've only her to lose!

"Faint heart never won fair lady"



ps. Don't forget to put your address on the letter.....GOOD LUCK!!

I’m going to be honest. If this woman is around my age, this would come across incredibly, incredibly creepy and probably get a TikTok made about it. Just being straightforward.

Different generations perhaps and what was once endearing is no longer the case. In 2022 (again speaking for women say 25-35, Paul described her as this bracket) if she declines once, even politely, then you should probably take the hint. This is a store worker who could entirely be putting on a facade and there is no actual connection. You have to entertain that possibility, some people are just genuinely great at their job and make people feel comfortable.

Just giving another perspective here as things change every decade and what was once acceptable or even incredibly normal is no longer the case. By all means shoot your shot once but to continue on at this day and age can be truly off putting to a lot of women. I say this from experience and again being in this age bracket. Most women this age will be up front whether they are interested or not, it’s not so much a ‘game’ like yesteryears. And again, the context is key here. If it was at a local gym or some ‘neutral’ location it’s different, we’re discussing at place where she gets PAID to be nice to individuals.

[superdog]

Originally Posted by dmash

I’m going to be honest. If this woman is around my age, this would come across incredibly, incredibly creepy and probably get a TikTok made about it. Just being straightforward.

Different generations perhaps and what was once endearing is no longer the case. In 2022 (again speaking for women say 25-35, Paul described her as this bracket) if she declines once, even politely, then you should probably take the hint. This is a store worker who could entirely be putting on a facade and there is no actual connection. You have to entertain that possibility, some people are just genuinely great at their job and make people feel comfortable.

Just giving another perspective here as things change every decade and what was once acceptable or even incredibly normal is no longer the case. By all means shoot your shot once but to continue on at this day and age can be truly off putting to a lot of women. I say this from experience and again being in this age bracket. Most women this age will be up front whether they are interested or not, it’s not so much a ‘game’ like yesteryears. And again, the context is key here. If it was at a local gym or some ‘neutral’ location it’s different, we’re discussing at place where she gets PAID to be nice to individuals.

was thinking the same.