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Tri-Tip · 9 June 2012, 09:55 AM

Only on TRF would someone equate the cost of a wedding to the cost of a Rolex! What a wonderful place.

Boopie · 9 June 2012, 10:11 AM

Are you asking whether to do a wedding (the ceremony/party) or to get married?

If your style is to have a low-key wedding, with a few relatives, instead of a big ceremony, then go for it. We had about 110 people at our wedding, and it was a nice way to celebrate this milestone. But, I know others who were just as happy with a small event.

If your girlfriend wants the big ceremony (as many women do) then I don't see why not...over time she'll be doing things and going to events for you that she would prefer not to (hosting Thanksgiving dinner for her in-laws, for example!

)

If budget is an issue then of course don't go insane with a wedding. We had a daytime wedding to cut down on costs (not as much alcohol consumed), and used a DJ instead of a live band.

As to marriage itself, after almost 21 years of marriage, I am so happy to be sharing life with a partner. It is definitely worth it to be married to the right person.

Congratulations!

rolio · 9 June 2012, 01:43 PM

You only NEED 4 things: a Great girlfriend, who you can see from time to time; a nice Weber; a good dog; and something to watch the game on. (I'm easy to please.) After 33 years of marriage, and only one, I've carved it down to only the most important 4. The list used to be longer. Now if you want kids, that's different.

patek.wis · 9 June 2012, 02:59 PM

Do whatever you want, but do yourself a favor and get an iron clad prenup.
Make sure that all your investments and assets are protected - see a lawyer.

:)

Andad · 9 June 2012, 05:39 PM

Hi Puffs,

Married for 43 years (3 wives, 8 kids, 12 grandkids) and my ex-wives are still sort of friends with me.

I highly recommend you marry this lady as you seem to care for her very much.
That is all that really matters in the long run.

PM me when you name the day. I'll see you in Sydney for a few ales.

Puffy · 9 June 2012, 08:57 PM

Thanks guys

It's the circus I don't want and already half the females in her family are pestering me

My offer of a fully expensed week in Barbados still stand

re assets, don't worry they're safe, a wedding outside my country of citizenship is not legally binding so in a worst case scenario can't be touched

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Puffy · 9 June 2012, 09:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by directioneng

Hi Puffs,

Married for 43 years (3 wives, 8 kids, 12 grandkids) and my ex-wives are still sort of friends with me.

I highly recommend you marry this lady as you seem to care for her very much.
That is all that really matters in the long run.

PM me when you name the day. I'll see you in Sydney for a few ales.

Eddie you're like some African chief or Italian Don!!!
Like it
Thanks for offer of ales, always keen on those

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texex91 · 9 June 2012, 09:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rolio

You only NEED 4 things: a Great girlfriend, who you can see from time to time; a nice Weber; a good dog; and something to watch the game on. (I'm easy to please.) After 33 years of marriage, and only one, I've carved it down to only the most important 4. The list used to be longer. Now if you want kids, that's different.

Boy you got that list just perfect.

Only thing I would modify is Girlfriend(s) plural.

And substitute a Big Green Egg for Weber

Linzjnr · 9 June 2012, 10:03 PM

Best thing I ever did, if you love her it will be awesome and make her (and you) happy. Before I got married I used to laugh and say how can a ring and piece of paper make any difference when we're already happy...trust me it makes a difference. Just go with it, it might cost two SkyDwellers but it is an investment of a different kind and if you love her then it will pay interest. Good luck.

speedo · 9 June 2012, 11:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gwalker

Nowadays spending $75-125k on a wedding isn't that unusual.

we definitely live in two very different worlds....

btw, i am very much pro marriage but i do hate weddings. had ours with just the very close family (we could order a la carte...) no special dress, no anything just our favourite song and a very short ceremony and i could not be happier.
stag parties rock however!

TheVTCGuy · 10 June 2012, 12:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Puffy

Thanks guys

It's the circus I don't want and already half the females in her family are pestering me

My offer of a fully expensed week in Barbados still stand

re assets, don't worry they're safe, a wedding outside my country of citizenship is not legally binding so in a worst case scenario can't be touched

Sent from my GT-I9100 using Tapatalk 2

Puffy if you're girfriend doesn't want to take the all-expenses paid trip to Barbados I could get away for a week!

FeelingTheBlues · 10 June 2012, 12:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Puffy

Eddie you're like some African chief or Italian Don!!!
Like it
Thanks for offer of ales, always keen on those

Sent from my GT-I9100 using Tapatalk 2

Indeed, what would we do without our mentor!

Joey_V · 10 June 2012, 12:51 AM

I'm confused.... you ask about "Marriage"... but you're really asking about the wedding?

MoBe · 10 June 2012, 01:24 AM

I know it`s already been said but let me reiterate;is this really the place for this kind of advice?

Lisa · 10 June 2012, 01:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MoBe

I know it`s already been said but let me reiterate;is this really the place for this kind of advice?

Yeah...ya think?

Dr. Robert · 10 June 2012, 02:23 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MoBe

I know it`s already been said but let me reiterate;is this really the place for this kind of advice?

....Puff must be desperate

FNFZ4 · 10 June 2012, 03:51 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Puffy

So I'm no longer able to stall what my girlfriend really wants: getting married

To me the whole thing is a lot of hassle that will take up people's time and run into the cost of two SkyDwellers.

Anyone else been in this situation?

Should I agree to over a year of unnecessary stress and fights over utter nonsense?

Been there, done that, and done it again. Its just a piece of paper for me. What matters is the commitment. If she truely wants to spend the rest of her life with you, why pressure you into marriage if you are not ready? You live together, blah blah.... Marriage has its plus and Minuses. Like if one of you goes first and there are a huge estate to be transferred etc....

this is really simple for me. The mere fact you are asking the question means you are not totally sure. But like what my dad says when he was teaching me about the birds and the bees to always use protection. So if you are getting married DO NOT SKIP THE PRE-NUP!!! you will thank me later. Even if you believe its not going to happen. An ounce of prevention is better than an ton of cure...

lavaman · 10 June 2012, 09:18 AM

pre nups dont mean squat and 48/50 states are community property, so what you had before is yours and what you aquire is joint, period.

pre nups are just a way for one group of fam attorneys to earn some fees up front and for the rest of us divorce attorneys to punch holes in them and earn our fees later, which we do.

save yourself the cash.

Sarajevo · 10 June 2012, 09:36 AM

I think weddings should be like cancer surgery - do it once and do it right. Forget about the cost, if you have been told by a person with whom you cannot argue that it is necessary, just get it done and spend the rest of your life enjoying the benefits.

dalip · 10 June 2012, 09:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Joey_V

I'm confused.... you ask about "Marriage"... but you're really asking about the wedding?

Spot on Joe...

Anders....As you are undoubtably aware, no one here can give you advice on whether to marry. That would be absurd and based on their narrow and very personal experience. Unlike watches this does not translate unless there's an intimate knowledge of who you and your partner are.

So...as we are really talking about the wedding...

We had a small affair...about 50 guests and an intimate ceremony. Amazing party and celebration with the people we really wanted there. It was a wonderful day.

That was what my wife and I wanted. That's what we had.

There was never any doubt in my mind about marrying Alison. If there was I would not have done it.

Weddings come and go mate.

threemonkeys · 10 June 2012, 10:02 AM

Over the course of a marriage, you may find that actually planning a wedding is far from a truly big decisions. If you can't compromise and figure out a solution that works, you shouldn't get married. Your future home, children, day to day financial decisions...pfft...a wedding day is nothing.

Trouble15 · 10 June 2012, 10:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tri-Tip

Only on TRF would someone equate the cost of a wedding to the cost of a Rolex! What a wonderful place.

DCgator · 10 June 2012, 10:11 AM

Do what YOU feel is right, and when it is right to do it. I hope it all gets worked by you and your GF.

bewithabob · 10 June 2012, 10:15 AM

How I came to get married. It was all very logical.

It all started because, at first, I wanted to have a dog. In order to get a dog, I needed a yard. In order to get a yard, I needed a house. In order to get the house I wanted, I needed a second income. In order to get a second income I had to get a girl friend. In order to get a girlfriend, I needed to go out on dates, and in order to go out on a lot of dates. In order to go out on a lot of dates, I needed to be out almost every night of the week. In order to go out every night of the week, I was usually out all night. In order to be to all night, I could not be home to walk a dog. In order to be home to walk a dog, I needed the girlfriend to be home with me more than I was out. In order to have the girlfriend be home, 7 nights and 7 mornings a week, I needed the girlfriend to come live with me. In order to get the girlfriend to come live with me, I needed to get married. In order to get married I had to buy a huge diamond ring, and another Rolex (for her) and have a huge wedding ceremony (that's what she wanted). This was a lot of trouble to go to get a dog. But it was worth it.

Because I got the dog.

sea-dweller · 10 June 2012, 10:18 AM

With the right person, it is wonderful. With the wrong person, it is living hell.

dba · 10 June 2012, 10:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lmbeauleap

I like being married but marriage and the wedding are two different things. If we could do it over again we would have skipped the whole ceremony monstrosity and just go on a nice trip. Maybe throw a party when we get back.

That's exactly what happened with me. We were already on a cruise in Alaska so we just planned ahead and got married during our stop in Juneau.

Now the party is next month. No stress involved. Good luck.

Cheers,

David

RolexPete32 · 10 June 2012, 11:38 AM

Cost alot of money yes but if you do it right you can make money. I did and here was how.
Work for a food business then hit up your suppliers, be your own chef. Get your company to give you a nice location. They own or rent enough places. Then take in the presents but put the word out you really need cash as gifts. All your suppliers such as flower companies hit them up as well. Get deals discontinued wine etc. In the end we paid about 1000 bucks and recived close to 10,000 in gifts.

We waited years to set this up. It took years to plan but being a young couple we did not want to spend 20 to 40 thousand bucks while paying rent and not yet having a car etc... now wedding rings and honeymoon not much a deal on that. Custom work was worth it for the rings.

Lisa · 10 June 2012, 11:44 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bewithabob

How I came to get married. It was all very logical.

It all started because, at first, I wanted to have a dog. In order to get a dog, I needed a yard. In order to get a yard, I needed a house. In order to get the house I wanted, I needed a second income. In order to get a second income I had to get a girl friend. In order to get a girlfriend, I needed to go out on dates, and in order to go out on a lot of dates. In order to go out on a lot of dates, I needed to be out almost every night of the week. In order to go out every night of the week, I was usually out all night. In order to be to all night, I could not be home to walk a dog. In order to be home to walk a dog, I needed the girlfriend to be home with me more than I was out. In order to have the girlfriend be home, 7 nights and 7 mornings a week, I needed the girlfriend to come live with me. In order to get the girlfriend to come live with me, I needed to get married. In order to get married I had to buy a huge diamond ring, and another Rolex (for her) and have a huge wedding ceremony (that's what she wanted). This was a lot of trouble to go to get a dog. But it was worth it.

Because I got the dog.

The best answer yet.

Andad · 10 June 2012, 11:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Puffy

Eddie you're like some African chief or Italian Don!!!
Like it
Thanks for offer of ales, always keen on those

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keschete · 10 June 2012, 12:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Puffy

So I'm no longer able to stall what my girlfriend really wants: getting married

To me the whole thing is a lot of hassle that will take up people's time and run into the cost of two SkyDwellers.

Anyone else been in this situation?

Should I agree to over a year of unnecessary stress and fights over utter nonsense?

Do NOT get married if you are not 100% sure.....otherwise you will just end up divorced.

9 June 2012, 01:43 PM	#93
rolio "TRF" Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Real Name: justRay Location: Back2California Watch: Birdies Posts: 1,921	You only NEED 4 things: a Great girlfriend, who you can see from time to time; a nice Weber; a good dog; and something to watch the game on. (I'm easy to please.) After 33 years of marriage, and only one, I've carved it down to only the most important 4. The list used to be longer. Now if you want kids, that's different. __________________ JJ "Tranquil? Just wait till I get started!! LOL! LOL!" --JJ Rolex~By way of an extraordinary life, and all the simple pleasures it has to offer~

9 June 2012, 05:39 PM	#95
Andad 2024 ROLEX DATEJUST41 Pledge Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Real Name: Eddie Location: Australia Watch: A few. Posts: 36,933	Hi Puffs, Married for 43 years (3 wives, 8 kids, 12 grandkids) and my ex-wives are still sort of friends with me. I highly recommend you marry this lady as you seem to care for her very much. That is all that really matters in the long run. PM me when you name the day. I'll see you in Sydney for a few ales. __________________ E

9 June 2012, 08:57 PM	#96
Puffy "TRF" Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Here and there Posts: 12,485	Thanks guys It's the circus I don't want and already half the females in her family are pestering me My offer of a fully expensed week in Barbados still stand re assets, don't worry they're safe, a wedding outside my country of citizenship is not legally binding so in a worst case scenario can't be touched Sent from my GT-I9100 using Tapatalk 2 __________________ Fine Quality is Long Remembered After the Pain of Spending Money is Forgotten

9 June 2012, 10:03 PM	#99
Linzjnr 2024 ROLEX DATEJUST41 Pledge Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Real Name: Linz Location: Perth WA Watch: My bank balance! Posts: 1,367	Best thing I ever did, if you love her it will be awesome and make her (and you) happy. Before I got married I used to laugh and say how can a ring and piece of paper make any difference when we're already happy...trust me it makes a difference. Just go with it, it might cost two SkyDwellers but it is an investment of a different kind and if you love her then it will pay interest. Good luck. __________________ SS Submariner Date 16610 - SS Polar Explorer GMT 216570

10 June 2012, 12:51 AM	#103
Joey_V "TRF" Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Real Name: Joey Location: Dallas, TX Watch: SS Sub 16610 M Posts: 3,824	I'm confused.... you ask about "Marriage"... but you're really asking about the wedding? __________________ Current Rotation: Rolex Submariner Date (M) - 1/08, Rolex Milgauss GV (V) - 2/10, Rolex SS Black Daytona (V) - 6/10, Rolex GMTIIC (G) - 5/11, TAG Heuer Silverstone (286/1860) - 1/2015 Former-watches: Omega PO/2535.80/2254, TAG Carrera/F1x2/Monaco, Panerai 312K/292L Wish List: Panerai 270/505, Rolex SMURF, Rolex RG Daytona, Rolex DSSD

9 June 2012, 09:55 AM	#91
Tri-Tip "TRF" Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: CA, USA Watch: Out!!! Posts: 6,415	Only on TRF would someone equate the cost of a wedding to the cost of a Rolex! What a wonderful place.

9 June 2012, 10:11 AM	#92
Boopie "TRF" Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Beverly Hills, CA Watch: Yachtmaster Posts: 3,780	Are you asking whether to do a wedding (the ceremony/party) or to get married? If your style is to have a low-key wedding, with a few relatives, instead of a big ceremony, then go for it. We had about 110 people at our wedding, and it was a nice way to celebrate this milestone. But, I know others who were just as happy with a small event. If your girlfriend wants the big ceremony (as many women do) then I don't see why not...over time she'll be doing things and going to events for you that she would prefer not to (hosting Thanksgiving dinner for her in-laws, for example! ) If budget is an issue then of course don't go insane with a wedding. We had a daytime wedding to cut down on costs (not as much alcohol consumed), and used a DJ instead of a live band. As to marriage itself, after almost 21 years of marriage, I am so happy to be sharing life with a partner. It is definitely worth it to be married to the right person. Congratulations!

9 June 2012, 02:59 PM	#94
patek.wis "TRF" Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Real Name: Will Location: Canada Watch: The Sky Posts: 1,824	Do whatever you want, but do yourself a favor and get an iron clad prenup. Make sure that all your investments and assets are protected - see a lawyer. :)

10 June 2012, 01:24 AM	#104
MoBe "TRF" Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Canada Posts: 6,773	I know it`s already been said but let me reiterate;is this really the place for this kind of advice?

10 June 2012, 09:18 AM	#108
lavaman Banned Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: The Airport Watch: what happens next Posts: 1,942	pre nups dont mean squat and 48/50 states are community property, so what you had before is yours and what you aquire is joint, period. pre nups are just a way for one group of fam attorneys to earn some fees up front and for the rest of us divorce attorneys to punch holes in them and earn our fees later, which we do. save yourself the cash.

10 June 2012, 09:36 AM	#109
Sarajevo "TRF" Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: The Netherlands Watch: 16600371701 Posts: 1,271	I think weddings should be like cancer surgery - do it once and do it right. Forget about the cost, if you have been told by a person with whom you cannot argue that it is necessary, just get it done and spend the rest of your life enjoying the benefits.

10 June 2012, 10:02 AM	#111
threemonkeys "TRF" Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Real Name: Craig Location: Seattle-ish, USA Watch: GMTIIc, AK, LVc Posts: 7,022	Over the course of a marriage, you may find that actually planning a wedding is far from a truly big decisions. If you can't compromise and figure out a solution that works, you shouldn't get married. Your future home, children, day to day financial decisions...pfft...a wedding day is nothing.

10 June 2012, 10:11 AM	#113
DCgator "TRF" Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: PNW Watch: DS,BLNR,SubLV,DJ2 Posts: 8,123	Do what YOU feel is right, and when it is right to do it. I hope it all gets worked by you and your GF.

10 June 2012, 10:15 AM	#114
bewithabob "TRF" Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Real Name: Bob Location: Dallas, Texas Watch: Daytona Meteorite Posts: 3,414	How I came to get married. It was all very logical. It all started because, at first, I wanted to have a dog. In order to get a dog, I needed a yard. In order to get a yard, I needed a house. In order to get the house I wanted, I needed a second income. In order to get a second income I had to get a girl friend. In order to get a girlfriend, I needed to go out on dates, and in order to go out on a lot of dates. In order to go out on a lot of dates, I needed to be out almost every night of the week. In order to go out every night of the week, I was usually out all night. In order to be to all night, I could not be home to walk a dog. In order to be home to walk a dog, I needed the girlfriend to be home with me more than I was out. In order to have the girlfriend be home, 7 nights and 7 mornings a week, I needed the girlfriend to come live with me. In order to get the girlfriend to come live with me, I needed to get married. In order to get married I had to buy a huge diamond ring, and another Rolex (for her) and have a huge wedding ceremony (that's what she wanted). This was a lot of trouble to go to get a dog. But it was worth it. Because I got the dog. __________________ meteor flying to Earth onto my wrist... 116509 Daytona Meteorite, 116520 Daytona Black, 116710 GMTIIC, 16013 DATEJUST, CARTIER SANTOS 100 W20090X8, IWC Big Pilot, IWC Top Gun "Everything works out in the end. If it hasn't worked out, it's not the end."

10 June 2012, 10:18 AM	#115
sea-dweller "TRF" Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Real Name: Dennis Location: Bay Area - 925 Posts: 40,018	With the right person, it is wonderful. With the wrong person, it is living hell.

10 June 2012, 11:38 AM	#117
RolexPete32 "TRF" Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Real Name: Peter Location: Canada Watch: You know... Rolex Posts: 1,520	Cost alot of money yes but if you do it right you can make money. I did and here was how. Work for a food business then hit up your suppliers, be your own chef. Get your company to give you a nice location. They own or rent enough places. Then take in the presents but put the word out you really need cash as gifts. All your suppliers such as flower companies hit them up as well. Get deals discontinued wine etc. In the end we paid about 1000 bucks and recived close to 10,000 in gifts. We waited years to set this up. It took years to plan but being a young couple we did not want to spend 20 to 40 thousand bucks while paying rent and not yet having a car etc... now wedding rings and honeymoon not much a deal on that. Custom work was worth it for the rings.

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