Marriage: to do it or not - what do the experts say?

[Andad]

Originally Posted by figbo

Meet all 4,they had a reunion in Puerto Rico.

They are sitting on you....right?

[Andad]

I say you have a serious problem Barry.

[Cru Jones]

Originally Posted by directioneng

Even now I can head off shopping with my wife 100% happily married and be hoping for a divorce after only a few stores.

We are heading out in about 20 minutes - I'll get back to you.

[The Joker]

Just be careful Anders, even long term relationships can end in tears.

A TORTOISE couple at an Austrian zoo have split up — after 115 years together. Zoo workers at the Reptilienzoo Happ in Austria sadly had to separate the long-term lovers — after female Bibi began attacking her hubby Poldi.

It became clear that the relationship was on the rocks after Bibi started biting bits of Poldi’s shell off. The pair of giant tortoises, who have been together since 1897, are childhood sweethearts.

Zookeepers fear that the 100kg reptiles could kill one another if left alone together.

[mannyv11]

Originally Posted by cruvon

I would say wedding costs should not be the biggest consideration if you love her, she wants a big wedding and if you can afford it. it's just a days expense and if she wants a big wedding so be it. I had a huge one for 1700 people:) (not a typo) more because my folks know more people than me and it's one of the few times you get to share your joy with others though some guests might even be complete strangers to you but it doesn't matter.
Whats'more important is that things go well when married and sometimes we can't look too much into the future, so I would say if you are ready emotionally then take the plunge!

1700 people? are you a king or something?

[jerseyden]

You will never win. It is written.

[stephentross]

Originally Posted by Puffy

So I'm no longer able to stall what my girlfriend really wants: getting married

To me the whole thing is a lot of hassle that will take up people's time and run into the cost of two SkyDwellers.

Anyone else been in this situation?

Should I agree to over a year of unnecessary stress and fights over utter nonsense?

If you can not live without this girl, Do it and DO IT right. Your life will be better for it. Give her the day she wants. It is her dream day that she probably has planed out since she was a little girl. If she wants a party, or a trip to vegas. Doesn't matter It will be your wifes wedding day. Make all us married guys proud.

[Highland Ranger]

I probably should read the thread first but if you have to ask probably not.

From personal experience, I have been married quite a long time.

[TswaneNguni]

Do not marry the woman that you can get along with,marry the woman that you cannot live without.

Simple

[yessir69]

Women are criminal mastermind rubicks cubes speaking a foreign language that believe they are never wrong and do not have the ability to lose an argument. As long as you know that in advance, go for it.

[toph]

Originally Posted by yessir69

Women are criminal mastermind rubicks cubes speaking a foreign language that believe they are never wrong and do not have the ability to lose an argument. As long as you know that in advance, go for it.

your wife heard that

[yessir69]

Originally Posted by toph

your wife heard that

I hope not. She lives 567 miles away...

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by yessir69

Women are criminal mastermind rubicks cubes speaking a foreign language that believe they are never wrong and do not have the ability to lose an argument. As long as you know that in advance, go for it.

Says the guy who responds to my eloquent, well-written and charming posts with only:



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[toph]

Originally Posted by Lisa

Says the guy who responds to my eloquent, well-written and charming posts with only:



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[Lisa]

Originally Posted by toph

Oh, stop it.

[MoBe]

Originally Posted by yessir69

Women are criminal mastermind rubicks cubes speaking a foreign language that believe they are never wrong and do not have the ability to lose an argument. As long as you know that in advance, go for it.

This explains why the wife is 567 miles away.

[toph]

Originally Posted by Lisa

Oh, stop it.

[FeelingTheBlues]

Originally Posted by MoBe

This explains why the wife is 567 miles away.

Worst thing is that I'm sure she still heard that...

[yessir69]

Originally Posted by lisa

says the guy who responds to my eloquent, well-written and charming posts with only:



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quack quack!

[MrNanni]

I was placed in the same situation years ago. I walked. Smartest move I made. No one should pressure you into it.

Now here are things I have been told:
A woman CFP once said:
Would you take half your net worth and invest it into a business that has less than 50% of succeeding. I said "no" she said that's marriage.

That has really stuck with me

I have a friend who got married and told him to think long and hard before doing it, well he did it 5 years ago and now in a nasty divorce and is losing everything. He is almost bankrupt.
He now calls me THE SMARTEST MAN he knows. :)

So: you decide,and do the right thing for yourself

You know where I stand :)

[tattooedfagin]

Met my wife in 93', married 9 years later...she's not just my wife but my best mate too....if it feels right 'go for it', otherwise wait longer or carry on searching

[GothamG8or]

Originally Posted by TswaneNguni

Do not marry the woman that you can get along with,marry the woman that you cannot live without.

Simple

I like this! I remember hearing this a while back but just reminded of it here. It really is that simple

[Rags]

I haven't read all the replies in this thread but here is my take. Marriage is a two way street there has to be give & take. I would live with the woman first to see if you're compatible. You never truly know a person till you live with them. You have to be friends & enjoy being with that person & know that you would do anything in the world including laying down your life for that person. And lastly you both need your own space to take time out for yourself.

[tripleC]

If you have to ask about getting married on a watch forum I say run. My opinon ..good luck.

[TswaneNguni]

Oh I fotgot to ad .....out of community of property without accrual.

[STEELINOX]

Originally Posted by Puffy

So I'm no longer able to stall what my girlfriend really wants: getting married

To me the whole thing is a lot of hassle that will take up people's time and run into the cost of two SkyDwellers.

Anyone else been in this situation?

Should I agree to over a year of unnecessary stress and fights over utter nonsense?

If you dont want it, then ya gotta cut loose of her and find someone else; its only fair for her and in your best interest too, though you wont realize it til after you've let her go and its been a while...

[MortgageGuy]

This is easy, I am married and have been for about 7 years... Best answer is

NO

[BondandBigM]

Never again

Three ex wives, a considerable amount of money and a few houses later I worked out that probably living in a hotel, a hooker every weekend and a couple of hit men would have been cheaper.

Fortunately Big M is married so when she gives me grief, as they all do eventually, I just send her home and let her husband deal with it

[FNFZ4]

I wasnt subscribed to this thread. Puff did you pull the trigger?

[airchitect]

Yes....only if she is not just your lady but your best friend. Sex will get (am I writing this?) boring. Arguments will happen and shes right. Money issues will happen and you're probably right. You will both get older and possibly less attractive. So long as you both understand that it wont always be lollypops and gumdrops you are good. Its awesome knowing that someone else possibly gives a damn whether or not you make it through the day....kind o nice....but if your sketch on it all, then you need to put the brakes on that freight train and slow it down....just tell her that waiting will allow you both to insure your relationship is stable and that the decision is the right one.....them run.