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Almostlucid · 13 March 2016, 04:19 AM

To compensate for my watch purchases (or justify), I was thinking of buying my wife a nice piece. Is this really necessary? Should I feel guilty for splurging on myself? What are your strategies with your wife?

japenney · 13 March 2016, 04:27 AM

If she has been expressing desire for a piece of jewelry then by all means get one for her. I do not think it is necessary. A Rolex purchase should be a happy time in every way. If you or your wife have other plans for the money perhaps it isn't the best time for a new watch. Just my .02

gwalker · 13 March 2016, 05:53 AM

I got my SD4k last month and my GF went and got her a new LV purse. IMHO as long as we can swing it we don't worry too much. I'm a decent saver but I prob should save more (but to be honest I think almost everyone with a watch fetish knows that issue hahahaha). Anyway most things I buy the most of watches and (shh firearms shhh) hold great value so I'm not throwing it away. Anyway some people would like to receive gifts when their spouse buys large gifts others could care less so it really just depends on your spouse.

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Time Collector · 13 March 2016, 06:04 AM

Happy Wife

, Happy Life!

Dubarzy · 13 March 2016, 06:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Almostlucid

To compensate for my watch purchases (or justify), I was thinking of buying my wife a nice piece. Is this really necessary? Should I feel guilty for splurging on myself? What are your strategies with your wife?

I think it's a great idea!

ref1655 · 13 March 2016, 06:24 AM

overcompensation might/can be viewed as a sign of weakness...a strong union seldom requires a 'tit for tat' reciprocity when it comes to material things.

chances are there will be other events and/or occasions where you can make things up in a more significant manner...unless she's a high-maintenance, self-centered type who keeps score on everything you buy for yourself.

CRM114 · 13 March 2016, 06:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Almostlucid

To compensate for my watch purchases (or justify), I was thinking of buying my wife a nice piece. Is this really necessary? Should I feel guilty for splurging on myself? What are your strategies with your wife?

Here's a crazy, insane idea; think of splurging on your wife first instead of on yourself. Who knows, you might actually develop a habit of it (perhaps even to the point of WANTING to do it) instead of wondering about your own feelings of guilt, what's "necessary", or need to compensate/justify through various strategies.

seand442 · 13 March 2016, 07:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Time Collector

Happy Wife

, Happy Life!

Truer words have never been spoken.

SamiKssiaa · 13 March 2016, 07:47 AM

Why do you feel the need to justify how you spend YOUR OWN HARD EARNED MONEY? That's the quickest way to unintentionally lose respect on a subconscious level, she'll take you to the cleaners in the future if you open this can of worms. Common sense 101, don't spoil women or children.

fskywalker · 13 March 2016, 07:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Time Collector

Happy Wife

, Happy Life!

This! 👆🏻😀

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SamiKssiaa · 13 March 2016, 07:53 AM

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Originally Posted by ref1655

overcompensation might/can be viewed as a sign of weakness...a strong union seldom requires a 'tit for tat' reciprocity when it comes to material things.

chances are there will be other events and/or occasions where you can make things up in a more significant manner...unless she's a high-maintenance, self-centered type who keeps score on everything you buy for yourself.

She'd probably be happy with a pair of shoes that cost 1/10th of the price of Jewelry that you would find in a high end watch shop. Its all about BANG PER BUCK.

RolexxxeloR · 13 March 2016, 07:55 AM

Do unto others... Does she feel compelled to buy something for you every time she makes a big purchase?

DPE · 13 March 2016, 08:11 AM

WHY ?? Buy a present when you want to or for a good reason. Not to cover guilt or make you feel better.

T. Ferguson · 13 March 2016, 08:38 AM

Ahh, the old "deflect and redirect technique". Personally, I usually go with the tried and true "Honey, you're mistaken. This watch isn't new."

Buying used helps sell it.

Ravager135 · 13 March 2016, 08:42 AM

My fiance doesn't care much what I spend my money on. She knew I was into watches a long time ago.

Duey · 13 March 2016, 08:45 AM

Why don't you buy her both

beshannon · 13 March 2016, 08:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Almostlucid

To compensate for my watch purchases (or justify), I was thinking of buying my wife a nice piece. Is this really necessary? Should I feel guilty for splurging on myself? What are your strategies with your wife?

No idea, sounds like you have a major problem on your hands.

I have no strategy, I tell my wife I am buying a watch. She can buy whatever she likes.

GB-man · 13 March 2016, 09:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Ravager135

My fiance doesn't care much what I spend my money on. She knew I was into watches a long time ago.

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Originally Posted by beshannon

I have no strategy, I tell my wife I am buying a watch. She can buy whatever she likes.

No need to do so, she buys what she wants with her money.

Boaters · 13 March 2016, 09:33 AM

I quit buying my wife jewelry about 10 years ago she has way more than she can wear by the way it was her idea. What works for us is we buy what we each like within reason.

Valencia_ · 13 March 2016, 09:34 AM

Yes.

Muzz · 13 March 2016, 11:38 AM

My wife already owns everything she could possibly want. She doesn't seem too concerned with pieces that come and go thankfully. At any point in time she wants something she has the ability to get it.

Our life is very well balanced.

William.L. · 13 March 2016, 11:47 AM

I bought mine a TON before getting my first rolex, which she ended up buying me in return for spoiling her for quite a while. find the balance you feel you need, but and most importantly..... just ask if shes happy... communication is key

stil · 13 March 2016, 11:48 AM

No two relationships are alike...same goes for people.

There's no formula for this. Either you know and you do what is right or you don't and you mess up. Live and learn...love and learn.

Almostlucid · 13 March 2016, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Duey

Why don't you buy her both

This is sharp looking! What is this model number?

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rr-nyc · 13 March 2016, 02:24 PM

My wife encourages me to buy whatever it is that would make me happy. I, in turn, encourage her to do the same. I don't see any advantage to biuying a guilt gift just because you're buying something for yourself. I'd rather she go out buy or comes out with me to pick what she wants.

1st amg · 13 March 2016, 09:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Muzz

My wife already owns everything she could possibly want. She doesn't seem too concerned with pieces that come and go thankfully. At any point in time she wants something she has the ability to get it.

Our life is very well balanced.

Ditto over here. I cant imagine living the model of "if you buy that, you need to buy me this"

UltimateWatchesAB · 13 March 2016, 09:24 PM

Not really, never make it a system. Give her gifts every now and then, not just due to your own purchases, but for your love. A true wife understands the valuable of hobbies, even expensive ones.

Gaijin · 13 March 2016, 09:25 PM

Thus I remain single..

Star Ferry · 13 March 2016, 09:53 PM

If the Rolex is a large purchase for your family, then I think discussing with your wife before buying is good practice. But there is no need to feel guilty or offer her a gift.

Almostlucid · 14 March 2016, 03:01 AM

FYI, she has encouraged me for a couple of years now. She has never asked for anything in return. As star stated, this is a big purchase for us. We both have come from humble means. We have struggled through life and now with hard work we are in a position that we can afford a few luxuries. Yes I feel guilty because of the $ amount not because of pressure she is putting on me. For regular guys like me, spending $8-$13k on a watch is hard to wrap my head around. Yes we can afford it, and yes I want it. I do spoil her, she has a closet full of shoes, bags and clothes that still have their tags. Lots of good advice here. I think I will just buy the watch and get her something amazing for our 10th anniversary, not because I bought the watch.

13 March 2016, 04:19 AM	#1
Almostlucid "TRF" Member Join Date: Feb 2016 Real Name: Paul Location: CA Posts: 136	Should I buy jewelry for the wife every time I buy a rolex? To compensate for my watch purchases (or justify), I was thinking of buying my wife a nice piece. Is this really necessary? Should I feel guilty for splurging on myself? What are your strategies with your wife?

13 March 2016, 05:53 AM	#3
gwalker "TRF" Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Real Name: Gunter Location: AL/NJ Watch: DSSD; 116610LN Posts: 5,509	Should I buy jewelry for the wife every time I buy a rolex? I got my SD4k last month and my GF went and got her a new LV purse. IMHO as long as we can swing it we don't worry too much. I'm a decent saver but I prob should save more (but to be honest I think almost everyone with a watch fetish knows that issue hahahaha). Anyway most things I buy the most of watches and (shh firearms shhh) hold great value so I'm not throwing it away. Anyway some people would like to receive gifts when their spouse buys large gifts others could care less so it really just depends on your spouse. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

13 March 2016, 06:04 AM	#4
Time Collector "TRF" Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Real Name: Anthony Location: California Watch: Rolex/AP/Panerai Posts: 1,641	Happy Wife, Happy Life! __________________ "You can never buy back Time, so spend it wisely."

13 March 2016, 08:38 AM	#14
T. Ferguson "TRF" Member Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Left Coast Posts: 7,025	Ahh, the old "deflect and redirect technique". Personally, I usually go with the tried and true "Honey, you're mistaken. This watch isn't new." Buying used helps sell it. __________________ *Some days it's just not worth chewing through the restraints.*

13 March 2016, 11:47 AM	#22
William.L. "TRF" Member Join Date: Mar 2013 Real Name: William Location: Belleville Mi Watch: 1675 & 16013 Posts: 617	I bought mine a TON before getting my first rolex, which she ended up buying me in return for spoiling her for quite a while. find the balance you feel you need, but and most importantly..... just ask if shes happy... communication is key __________________ Omega Bumper Automatic Rolex Datejust 16013 TT Rolex GMT 1675/3 Tudor GMT Serti GMT

13 March 2016, 04:27 AM	#2
japenney "TRF" Member Join Date: Apr 2013 Real Name: Josh Location: Canada Watch: undecided Posts: 4,777	If she has been expressing desire for a piece of jewelry then by all means get one for her. I do not think it is necessary. A Rolex purchase should be a happy time in every way. If you or your wife have other plans for the money perhaps it isn't the best time for a new watch. Just my .02

13 March 2016, 06:24 AM	#6
ref1655 Banned Join Date: Dec 2015 Location: SF Bay Area Watch: 1655/MkI Posts: 1,100	overcompensation might/can be viewed as a sign of weakness...a strong union seldom requires a 'tit for tat' reciprocity when it comes to material things. chances are there will be other events and/or occasions where you can make things up in a more significant manner...unless she's a high-maintenance, self-centered type who keeps score on everything you buy for yourself.

13 March 2016, 07:47 AM	#9
SamiKssiaa Banned Join Date: Oct 2015 Location: Scotland Watch: 116710BLNR Posts: 292	Why do you feel the need to justify how you spend YOUR OWN HARD EARNED MONEY? That's the quickest way to unintentionally lose respect on a subconscious level, she'll take you to the cleaners in the future if you open this can of worms. Common sense 101, don't spoil women or children.

13 March 2016, 07:55 AM	#12
RolexxxeloR Banned Join Date: Jul 2015 Real Name: Mario Location: Westland, MI Posts: 481	Do unto others... Does she feel compelled to buy something for you every time she makes a big purchase?

13 March 2016, 08:11 AM	#13
DPE "TRF" Member Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: uk Posts: 1,050	WHY ?? Buy a present when you want to or for a good reason. Not to cover guilt or make you feel better.

13 March 2016, 08:42 AM	#15
Ravager135 "TRF" Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: New Jersey Posts: 4,122	My fiance doesn't care much what I spend my money on. She knew I was into watches a long time ago.

13 March 2016, 09:33 AM	#19
Boaters 2024 Pledge Member Join Date: May 2015 Real Name: Mike Location: Pacific Northwest Watch: 116610LV 16710 SD Posts: 10,649	I quit buying my wife jewelry about 10 years ago she has way more than she can wear by the way it was her idea. What works for us is we buy what we each like within reason.

13 March 2016, 09:34 AM	#20
Valencia_ "TRF" Member Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: Charlotte, NC Posts: 151	Yes.

13 March 2016, 11:38 AM	#21
Muzz "TRF" Member Join Date: Mar 2014 Real Name: Steve Location: TO CAD, HCMC VN Watch: MP 18946 Posts: 7,292	My wife already owns everything she could possibly want. She doesn't seem too concerned with pieces that come and go thankfully. At any point in time she wants something she has the ability to get it. Our life is very well balanced.

13 March 2016, 11:48 AM	#23
stil Member Join Date: Jul 2014 Real Name: not stil Location: USA Watch: Rolex n Omega Posts: 1,327	No two relationships are alike...same goes for people. There's no formula for this. Either you know and you do what is right or you don't and you mess up. Live and learn...love and learn.

13 March 2016, 02:24 PM	#25
rr-nyc Liar & Ratbag Join Date: Nov 2009 Real Name: Renato Location: NYC / Miami Beach Watch: Rolex Daytona Posts: 5,344	My wife encourages me to buy whatever it is that would make me happy. I, in turn, encourage her to do the same. I don't see any advantage to biuying a guilt gift just because you're buying something for yourself. I'd rather she go out buy or comes out with me to pick what she wants.

13 March 2016, 09:24 PM	#27
UltimateWatchesAB "TRF" Member Join Date: Mar 2016 Location: Stockholm, Sweden Watch: 5980R, 5164R, 5990 Posts: 60	Not really, never make it a system. Give her gifts every now and then, not just due to your own purchases, but for your love. A true wife understands the valuable of hobbies, even expensive ones.

13 March 2016, 09:25 PM	#28
Gaijin 2024 ROLEX DATEJUST41 Pledge Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Japan Watch: ing your back. Posts: 16,180	Thus I remain single..

13 March 2016, 09:53 PM	#29
Star Ferry Banned Join Date: Aug 2015 Location: down by the river Posts: 4,926	If the Rolex is a large purchase for your family, then I think discussing with your wife before buying is good practice. But there is no need to feel guilty or offer her a gift.

14 March 2016, 03:01 AM	#30
Almostlucid "TRF" Member Join Date: Feb 2016 Real Name: Paul Location: CA Posts: 136	FYI, she has encouraged me for a couple of years now. She has never asked for anything in return. As star stated, this is a big purchase for us. We both have come from humble means. We have struggled through life and now with hard work we are in a position that we can afford a few luxuries. Yes I feel guilty because of the $ amount not because of pressure she is putting on me. For regular guys like me, spending $8-$13k on a watch is hard to wrap my head around. Yes we can afford it, and yes I want it. I do spoil her, she has a closet full of shoes, bags and clothes that still have their tags. Lots of good advice here. I think I will just buy the watch and get her something amazing for our 10th anniversary, not because I bought the watch.

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