381 days down and ? to go....

[gmh1013]

My move out date is July 27th which was the exact same day we moved here on in 06. My friend in AZ asked me last we are you slowly getting over your wife's death? Nope....Im just as upset today as 6 months ago...its not like getting a divorce. ...as the song says "every new beginning comes from some beginnings end" i cant think of the name of it right now. At least i get to spend the rest of my years back home in AZ. I would like to thank everybody for the kind words over the past year.

[-lenny-]

Closing Time, by Semisonic.

Losing someone is never easy, and the pain doesn’t go away. But what would your wife want you to do? My wife and I have had this discussion, and the poem below really speaks to us.

Miss Me But Let Me Go

When I come to the end of the road
And the sun has set for me
I want no rites in a gloom-filled room
Why cry for a soul set free?

Miss me a little-but not too long
And not with your head bowed low
Remember the love that we once shared
Miss me-but let me go

For this is a journey that we all must take
And each must go alone.
It's all part of the Master's plan
A step on the road to home

When you are lonely and sick of heart
Go to the friends we know
And bury your sorrows in doing good deeds
Miss me but let me go.

Author: Anonymous

[piratfisk]

Hey man, you're a complete stranger on the internet & I really hate the phrase "thoughts & prayers" because that seems like such a cop-out thing for people to say when they want to pretend to care, so I won't say that. I can't imagine the heartache & the mental trauma that you've gone through & continue to go through. I can't offer you any advice, either. I can just tell you that, from one complete stranger behind a keyboard to another, I wish you the best. Every human being deserves happiness & I genuinely wish that you find whatever you're looking for & whatever you need.

[Art 1]

Glad to hear you are getting back, Greg. Keep at it, keep plugging along, what else.

[CamSLC]

Cheers Greg. I hope this new chapter in Arizona brings you a plethora of grateful experiences and immense satisfaction.

[BNA/LION]

Excellent to hear you are making the move and creating some changes that will likely have positive implications for you.

[daveathall]

My wife died suddenly over 20 years ago, The best bit of advice I was given and helped a lot was that we never get over it, what we do, is we learn to cope with it better, forget those that say, "time is a healer," it's not. It will still hurt, but you will learn to cope better though Greg. honestly.

[1William]

Dave is right, as I believe we never get over this type of loss. Who would want too? My personal experience with the deaths of several people close to me, never my spouse, is that I have learned to live with it and put it in it's place. I will always reflect on it at different times and will always be sad about it. I just go on and enjoy those around me now.

[BigBlue1]

Greg,
Hopefully you got much support around you. When the mother of my Kids passed on, it was like the whole world stopped. I was in a very dark place at that time. I had millions of questions swirling around in my head, how was I going to be both parents. She passed on 3 years ago and I still think about her everyday. She meant so much to be. It’s amazing I can still smell her hair, hear her voice and still laugh about the good times. It sucks, my kids are just kids man and she won’t be there when they graduate, get married have kids and etc. I have found the strength to be strong not only for my own sake, but for my kids as well. I have been on dates and stuff, but it isn’t the same. She was truly a one of a kind Women. May She Rest along with Yours. God Bless Brother.

[gmh1013]

Originally Posted by BigBlue1

Greg,
Hopefully you got much support around you. When the mother of my Kids passed on, it was like the whole world stopped. I was in a very dark place at that time. I had millions of questions swirling around in my head, how was I going to be both parents. She passed on 3 years ago and I still think about her everyday. She meant so much to be. It’s amazing I can still smell her hair, hear her voice and still laugh about the good times. It sucks, my kids are just kids man and she won’t be there when they graduate, get married have kids and etc. I have found the strength to be strong not only for my own sake, but for my kids as well. I have been on dates and stuff, but it isn’t the same. She was truly a one of a kind Women. May She Rest along with Yours. God Bless Brother.

Oh man I feel so bad...im sure its twice as bad when kids are involved. Her kids were grown when we married and i never had any but we did have almost 24 years. You sound a good deal younger (im 62) and have zero desire to "date" at my age.....i just cant do it anymore.My wife always used this Hermes perfume and i have a empty bottle ...when i pick it up its like i can smell her scent. I hope you find something to make you happy...at least you have her kids. Today i have a new twist....i got a letter from IRS....my wife did the taxes....she loved doing stuff like that....but the past two years she did not file...well 2017.....2018 i know about and with her death the last thing i thought about was taxes.....now they say i owe about 6k in back taxes for 2107....now i have to piece together what happened...there goes my new watch.

[218225]

Originally Posted by daveathall

My wife died suddenly over 20 years ago, The best bit of advice I was given and helped a lot was that we never get over it, what we do, is we learn to cope with it better, forget those that say, "time is a healer," it's not. It will still hurt, but you will learn to cope better though Greg. honestly.

I agree 100% with that advies.

My dad died suddenly in 2000 and I still miss him everyday. Some wounds do not heal and you need to adjust.

I think my mom never could adjust and her world sort of stopped. And that adds to the pain.



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