Saying “I love you”

[MrGoat]

Do you do it?

Do you do it to everyone you love?

Just family?

I’ve always said it to those that mean something to me at the end of every conversation whether in person, over the phone or text.

I’ve noticed many parents that don’t say it to their adult children or even their under 18 kids.

Why are some people so opposed to showing affection for those they love?

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[BNA/LION]

I Alway Say, "I LOVE YOU". It is important to me that others know how I feel about them.

[espanol]

I make it a point that my wife and kids hear me say that to them every single day

[Blansky]

I lost a Rolex once by saying it too often in bars, although I don't remember much about it.

[enjoythemusic]

Say it often, daily to my muse, and when chatting with family and to good very close friends who i do 'love'.

Love ya GOAT

[THC]

All you need is love…. Beatles

[S’portEye]

Life is short and precious. I never miss an opportunity to say it to the people who matter the most in my life.

[austinp]

Always to my family. The most important thing in parenting is make absolutely sure that your kids know without a doubt that they are loved.


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[1st amg]

With my wife and kids always…you don’t know when you step outside if you’re coming home. Freak accident and that’s it. I also tell my mother often, it’s important to me that they hear it and know it, even though action speak louder than words.


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[Beo3]

I say I love you several times a day to my wife.

My daughter and I say it to each other, but she lives on the opposite coast and we don't speak very often.

My two sons, never.

My father and I, no. I don't think ever in my life I heard him utter those words, and I wish my mother was still around so I could tell her a million times over.

[Stan Cooper]

My father and my mother said "I love you" frequently to me and my four siblings growing up and as adults. I say it to family that I'm close to as well as close friends (both genders), and I mean it.

[cdmorenot]

I never told anyone I loved them until I lost the opportunity to tell someone that I loved that I loved them.

It hits different when you’re not able to anymore because they’re gone.

Now, I make sure that everyone that live knows it. . I text my kid “I love you” at least three times a day. I’ll never stop.

Everyone that I love gets the random I love you via text or email! I’ll never be late again.

[Rock]

Saying "I Love You" is not "showing affection" it is just saying some words - like "Have a Nice Day".
In my family we "say I love you" by the way that we treat each other and what we do for each other. Many committments of time and effort and support that actually "cost" the giver. Actions not words. Everyone to their own, however.

[East Bay Rider]

Goodnight, love you.
Drive safe, love you.
Heading out, be right back, love you.
In my house, my wife, son and I say it all the time. We really mean it. We worked hard to make our home genuinely comfortable and one of trust. I grew up in a household with so much tension we never even thought to share any signs of affection. I'm sure we technically loved each other but I also think we were all just waiting to legally be away from each other as each of us left soon after HS. Now my parents are old and while I do mind over them and check on them weekly, it's just awkward and uncomfortable when they hug or tell me they love me. My wife's background was similar.
I'm really glad my wife and I broke the cycle and my son knows for sure.

[Moondoggy]

I think I say it to my dog wayyyyyy to often.

[raycover]

I've been trying to tell my father I love him more out loud. As he gets older, I need him to know more than ever his worth to me. I love you, pops!

[rootbeer7]

Here in Britain were far too reserved for that nonsense

[Andad]

Originally Posted by Rock

Saying "I Love You" is not "showing affection" it is just saying some words - like "Have a Nice Day".
In my family we "say I love you" by the way that we treat each other and what we do for each other. Many committments of time and effort and support that actually "cost" the giver. Actions not words. Everyone to their own, however.

Well said.

[geoach]

I don't need to say it ......to the ones that count........I show it.......words are just that words. Why say it everyday ? What one day it will stop ?

[pickettt]

THESE THREE WORDS- Stevie Wonder

When was the last time
That they heard you say
Mother or father, I love you
And when was the last time
That they heard you say
Daughter or son, I love you

Ones you say you cherish everyday
Can instantly be taken away
Then you'd say I know this can't be true
When you never took the time
To simply tell them "I love you"

When was the last time
That they heard you say
Sister or brother, I love you
And when was the last time
That they heard you say
Darling or best friend, I love you

The one for whom you'd give your very life
Could be taken in the twinkling of an eye
Through your tears you'd ask why did you go
Knowing you'd didn't always show
Just how much you loved them so

I know a family
Who hasn't a cent to their name
And yet the joy and love they have between them
They always claim
And when one's called from life
The survived mourn the lost
And will never be the same
Yet they rejoice
In knowing they gave them their all

[CalSRQ1]

Originally Posted by Rock

Saying "I Love You" is not "showing affection" it is just saying some words - like "Have a Nice Day".
In my family we "say I love you" by the way that we treat each other and what we do for each other. Many committments of time and effort and support that actually "cost" the giver. Actions not words. Everyone to their own, however.

Yes everyone to their own…but I’ve spent my career dealing with families after a loss and not infrequently I’ve had adult children lament a dad that never said “the words” and then trying to talk thru having them look at the actions to find their love. Also a huge family estate fight that boiled down to dad loved you more bc he said it to daughter but not to son. We’re such complicated creatures. We should all consider not just what we’re comfortable doing…what language does my (son,daughter,spouse,etc) speak? I’m going to be dead a long time - whatever a person I love needs to see or hear to know I love them isn’t wasted effort.

[Pw92676]

I rarely heard these words growing up. Now I tell my wife, son and dogs that I love them probably 5 times a day. Say it to my best friends whom I consider family. Interestingly my in laws also are a bit awkward with it so I stopped saying it to them routinely.

[brandrea]

I use those three words every single day.

[colpol]

Originally Posted by Rock

Saying "I Love You" is not "showing affection" it is just saying some words - like "Have a Nice Day".
In my family we "say I love you" by the way that we treat each other and what we do for each other. Many committments of time and effort and support that actually "cost" the giver. Actions not words. Everyone to their own, however.

Totally agree
Actions speak louder than words

[walds11]

All day, everyday to my family members.

[Calatrava r]

Certainly, with my AD.

[MrGoat]

For those that say “Actions speak louder than words”, I agree. However, I’d prefer those I love to remember the last words I ever said to them as professing that love that I’ve shown all those years. Instead of “Ok, sounds good” or “Can you pick up my vitamins when you’re at the store?”

I know with many here there isn’t a stigma regarding saying it to people of the same or opposite sex. But for those of you who only say it to your wives, daughters or moms, what’s the reasoning you won’t say it to your sons or fathers?

It’s great to see so many here that I presume have no problems professing AND showing their love for those they cherish. To those of you that don’t profess it I hold no judgement, I’m just curious what the root reasoning is.


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[AzPaul]

Quite often to my family and sweetheart . . . . . . . and when there's a Wonder Woman movie on.

[ltmgeller]

All the time to those I love

[RichardBartlett]

I started a tradition with my partner very soon after we got together, whenever we have a drink together irrespective of where we are, we always toast ourselves with a "to us"and a kiss.it often raises eyebrows and for example Our cruise table guests for instance gave us funny looks at first but now consider it quite sweet.. it's something we do and always do, and if one forgets or is distracted then the other reminds them, usually with a big show of "hurt".

My partner from a northern European country isn't used to outward signs of affection but after 7 years is now perfectly comfortable saying l love you so we must exchange it at least 5-10 times a day.