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Zirotti · 20 February 2010, 03:16 PM

I've only been on here since Oct. 09, and only within the last couple months have I become regularly active. With that being said, what is up with the general tone on here sometimes?

I find there are some members that will routinely post sarcastic, off-colour responses to questions instead of making an effort to explain or point people in the right direction.

There seems to be a very vocal minority, and lots of helpful threads end up derailed in heaps of this crap

I've already met a bunch of very cool people on here and this place continues to be an ever growing resource, but I think some folks need to take a step back and realize that we are here to help each other, not belittle and lambast.

I apologize to the admin team if this is an inappropriate venue, but I felt that I had to share my thoughts.

</soapbox>

Taffi Abernathy · 20 February 2010, 03:35 PM

Jason,

What I find even more frustrating are people who share inappropriate material (due to a lack of boundaries, pathology and/or poor judgment), people who can't seem to tolerate having an unexpressed thought and individuals who present themselves in a dishonest vein. For example, as a female, I have received "attention" from a few men who were forthright about everything except one little detail - they failed to mention their marital status. (A slight "oversight" I know!)

We all have different personalities and what you enjoy in a post may be a turn-off to someone else and vice versa. Perhaps since we are dealing with a cross-section of the public, it's advisable to remember that there are bona fide differences between people. These differences are not necessarily better or worse but mere expressions of individual tastes.

Faith

clew84 · 20 February 2010, 03:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Taffi Abernathy

For example, as a female, I have received "attention" from a few men who were forthright about everything except one little detail - they failed to mention their marital status. (A slight "oversight" I know!)

Seriously - that's happened here a few times??? Amazing... . Sorry to hear that. I would hate to see women leave this place because they feel uncomfortable. Granted, no place is perfect and the anonymity of forums makes it easy for someone to act in that way and it will, unfortunately, happen regardless of people getting reprimanded, banned, etc.

Glad you're still here.

Yazo · 20 February 2010, 04:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zirotti

I've only been on here since Oct. 09, and only within the last couple months have I become regularly active. With that being said, what is up with the general tone on here sometimes?

I find there are some members that will routinely post sarcastic, off-colour responses to questions instead of making an effort to explain or point people in the right direction.

There seems to be a very vocal minority, and lots of helpful threads end up derailed in heaps of this crap

I've already met a bunch of very cool people on here and this place continues to be an ever growing resource, but I think some folks need to take a step back and realize that we are here to help each other, not belittle and lambast.

I apologize to the admin team if this is an inappropriate venue, but I felt that I had to share my thoughts.

</soapbox>

I've noticed this also, with a specific couple of posters repeatedly. It's kind of sad really

idk01 · 20 February 2010, 04:24 PM

Hi Jason,

First, Apologies just in case I have done any of the naughtiness mentioned, I do have a habit of getting a little out of line every now and then and can be a bit on the short side in the watchout section, 90% of the time thats lack of time here :-(

Since joining you have made many contributions to this forum

keep posting and don't let things change the way you think here, we're all friends

Faith, I always love your posts, I do have to apologize for not joining in, sometimes I get carried away reading through, I've been trying lately to get into posting outside watchout but the guys are keeping us very busy :-) might have to hit Stan up for a raise

Dave.

Ashley · 20 February 2010, 04:28 PM

I agree that some people rub me the wrong way with certain posts, but rather than saying my true feelings, I take it to my blog ;)

Seriously though, I think that the mod team does a great job. I have only been seriously offended in two threads, and they were the only two that I have ever reported in over three years of being a member here. They were both dealth with promptly and effectively.

Sometimes, people forget that they may come across in a negative way to people on a forum, because it can be hard to tell one's tone. If you have an issue with a particular post, you could try bringing it up with the person in a PM, or if you find that every single time you see a certain user post a response to a thread you feel like bashing your skull against cement, you can always block them!

idk01 · 20 February 2010, 04:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ashley

I agree that some people rub me the wrong way with certain posts, but rather than saying my true feelings, I take it to my blog ;)

I hope I've been good Ashley, I better have a catch up on your blog just in case

Ashley · 20 February 2010, 04:34 PM

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Originally Posted by idk01

I hope I've been good Ashley, I better have a catch up on your blog just in case

Nah, you guys are great. I took down the few posts on my blog ranting about a member. I figured I would try to be the bigger person for once

toph · 20 February 2010, 04:36 PM

I actually agree with you. Especially when new members post a rather- what would be to us- simple question. I always try to reiterate to the members that jump down peoples throats, that we all started somewhere, and it is always obvious when we know the answer. If you don't ask you will never learn. Furthermore no-one is contracted to reply to what they deem a silly question- feel free to move on and let someone else help them. Otherwise this forum is pretty darn good!!!!

P.S Dave- i will deal with you later!!!!

idk01 · 20 February 2010, 04:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by toph

P.S Dave- i will deal with you later!!!!

Hey Chris, I'm going to head over to Michael's for a coffee next weekend, need to shout him a drink or two:-) should join us, then you can deal with me

toph · 20 February 2010, 04:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by idk01

Hey Chris, I'm going to head over to Michael's for a coffee next weekend, need to shout him a drink or two:-) should join us, then you can deal with me

sounds good. but are we talking about the yellowish fizzy 'coffee' that comes in pints?

Send me a message nearer the time as that would be good

Taffi Abernathy · 20 February 2010, 04:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by idk01

Hi Jason,

First, Apologies just in case I have done any of the naughtiness mentioned, I do have a habit of getting a little out of line every now and then and can be a bit on the short side in the watchout section, 90% of the time thats lack of time here :-(

Since joining you have made many contributions to this forum

keep posting and don't let things change the way you think here, we're all friends

Faith, I always love your posts, I do have to apologize for not joining in, sometimes I get carried away reading through, I've been trying lately to get into posting outside watchout but the guys are keeping us very busy :-) might have to hit Stan up for a raise

Dave.

Yo Dave,

How the hell did you accrue so many posts in so short a time?

toph · 20 February 2010, 04:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Taffi Abernathy

Yo Dave,

How the hell did you accrue so many posts in so short a time?

priorities

P.S i know i am not Dave

idk01 · 20 February 2010, 04:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Taffi Abernathy

Yo Dave,

How the hell did you accrue so many posts in so short a time?

I can type very fast

not quite as fast as JJ but I'm getting there

Taffi Abernathy · 20 February 2010, 04:53 PM

Speaking of sarcasm . . . for those of you who share an affinity for things sarcastic, I have just the site for you.

www.sarcasmsociety.com

toph · 20 February 2010, 04:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Taffi Abernathy

Speaking of sarcasm . . . for those of you who share an affinity for things sarcastic, I have just the site for you.

www.sarcasmsociety.com

How to recognize irony

snow_rocks · 20 February 2010, 10:33 PM

Like STOP signs, some things are never fully respected.

Zirotti · 21 February 2010, 05:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Yazo

I've noticed this also, with a specific couple of posters repeatedly. It's kind of sad really

Agreed

swissautopro · 21 February 2010, 07:23 AM

Jason,

You have to just overlook some things, as in life in general, IMHO. But I will say, when I read something that appears cutting or sarcastic, I try to re-read it. As I have said on this and other forums before, it is very difficult to convey true intent through the written word, solely. However, I agree with you that some things are abrasive, no matter how many times you read them.

Hang in - there are a lot of fine folks here!

20 February 2010, 03:16 PM	#1
Zirotti "TRF" Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Real Name: Jason Location: Tejas Watch: Invicta Posts: 1,066	Riddle me this... I've only been on here since Oct. 09, and only within the last couple months have I become regularly active. With that being said, what is up with the general tone on here sometimes? I find there are some members that will routinely post sarcastic, off-colour responses to questions instead of making an effort to explain or point people in the right direction. There seems to be a very vocal minority, and lots of helpful threads end up derailed in heaps of this crap I've already met a bunch of very cool people on here and this place continues to be an ever growing resource, but I think some folks need to take a step back and realize that we are here to help each other, not belittle and lambast. I apologize to the admin team if this is an inappropriate venue, but I felt that I had to share my thoughts. </soapbox>

20 February 2010, 03:35 PM	#2
Taffi Abernathy "TRF" Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Real Name: Faith Location: Philadelphia, PA Watch: TT DJ, SS DJ Posts: 4,053	Jason, What I find even more frustrating are people who share inappropriate material (due to a lack of boundaries, pathology and/or poor judgment), people who can't seem to tolerate having an unexpressed thought and individuals who present themselves in a dishonest vein. For example, as a female, I have received "attention" from a few men who were forthright about everything except one little detail - they failed to mention their marital status. (A slight "oversight" I know!) We all have different personalities and what you enjoy in a post may be a turn-off to someone else and vice versa. Perhaps since we are dealing with a cross-section of the public, it's advisable to remember that there are bona fide differences between people. These differences are not necessarily better or worse but mere expressions of individual tastes. Faith __________________ Sarcasm is my second language.

20 February 2010, 04:24 PM	#5
idk01 "TRF" Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Real Name: Dave Location: Australia Watch: DJ16233TT Posts: 18,485	Hi Jason, First, Apologies just in case I have done any of the naughtiness mentioned, I do have a habit of getting a little out of line every now and then and can be a bit on the short side in the watchout section, 90% of the time thats lack of time here :-( Since joining you have made many contributions to this forum keep posting and don't let things change the way you think here, we're all friends Faith, I always love your posts, I do have to apologize for not joining in, sometimes I get carried away reading through, I've been trying lately to get into posting outside watchout but the guys are keeping us very busy :-) might have to hit Stan up for a raise Dave. __________________ *Apprentice to Terry Newton; Superstar and Fake Sleuth*

20 February 2010, 04:36 PM	#9
toph "TRF" Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Real Name: ChrisTOPHer Location: Sydney Watch: Rolex, Brellum, Posts: 12,601	I actually agree with you. Especially when new members post a rather- what would be to us- simple question. I always try to reiterate to the members that jump down peoples throats, that we all started somewhere, and it is always obvious when we know the answer. If you don't ask you will never learn. Furthermore no-one is contracted to reply to what they deem a silly question- feel free to move on and let someone else help them. Otherwise this forum is pretty darn good!!!! P.S Dave- i will deal with you later!!!! __________________ "Where no counsel is the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." Member No.# 11795

20 February 2010, 04:53 PM	#15
Taffi Abernathy "TRF" Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Real Name: Faith Location: Philadelphia, PA Watch: TT DJ, SS DJ Posts: 4,053	Speaking of sarcasm . . . for those of you who share an affinity for things sarcastic, I have just the site for you. www.sarcasmsociety.com __________________ Sarcasm is my second language.

20 February 2010, 04:28 PM	#6
Ashley "TRF" Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Real Name: Ashley Location: Calgary Posts: 6,967	I agree that some people rub me the wrong way with certain posts, but rather than saying my true feelings, I take it to my blog ;) Seriously though, I think that the mod team does a great job. I have only been seriously offended in two threads, and they were the only two that I have ever reported in over three years of being a member here. They were both dealth with promptly and effectively. Sometimes, people forget that they may come across in a negative way to people on a forum, because it can be hard to tell one's tone. If you have an issue with a particular post, you could try bringing it up with the person in a PM, or if you find that every single time you see a certain user post a response to a thread you feel like bashing your skull against cement, you can always block them!

20 February 2010, 10:33 PM	#17
snow_rocks Banned Join Date: Feb 2009 Real Name: Rick Location: At what TIME?!!! Watch: the SKY tonite! Posts: 3,225	Like STOP signs, some things are never fully respected.

21 February 2010, 07:23 AM	#19
swissautopro "TRF" Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Real Name: Mike Location: South Carolina Watch: 3.3M 1655 Mk I Posts: 2,384	Jason, You have to just overlook some things, as in life in general, IMHO. But I will say, when I read something that appears cutting or sarcastic, I try to re-read it. As I have said on this and other forums before, it is very difficult to convey true intent through the written word, solely. However, I agree with you that some things are abrasive, no matter how many times you read them. Hang in - there are a lot of fine folks here! __________________ "A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest, and poverty will come upon you like a bandit, and scarcity like an armed man." Proverbs 24 "It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than open your mouth and remove all doubt." Unknown "Better to be a nobody and yet have a servant than pretend to be somebody and have no food." Proverbs 12

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