Online Dating

[Headshrinker]

My neighbor just got divorced and she told my wife and I she meet someone on line that really intrigued her. She is the vice-president of a large insurance company and makes quite a good living so we were worried that someone might want to take advantage of her, so I paid a company to investigate this gentleman and found out it was not the person she was in contact with, who said he designed oil rigs. My daughter told her to get him to hold up three forks from his kitchen while they were texting and take a picture. He made excuses and got off the phone. Two hours later, he texted back with a big sign next to him that said, “now you know it’s me.” When my neighbor showed my daughter, my daughter showed her how the picture was probably photoshopped; besides he never showed himself with the forks. When the man was confronted with this information, he became very irate and hung up the phone. Thanks to my daughter, there is no date taking place in NYC this weekend. It could have taken a dangerous turn.

[gmh1013]

My doctor has been pushing me to get out of the house since my wife died....at my age (61) plus all the medical problems i have I keep telling her nobody in their right mind would have anything to do with me....but what would worry me is they see i own my own a home have 3 cars have not worked in 12 years.....and only be interested in what they could "get" home,money etc. I dont think of myself as well off....but to somebody making 12 bucks an hour i would be. I have not been on a date in 31 years ....the idea of dating is something i just think i do anymore. The last "date" i went on would have been summer of 1988 when i was 31 and the women told me "if you want to have anything to do with me you must get rid of those cats" you can guess who i choose. meow. I had terrible luck dating and met my wife at work.

[037]

Originally Posted by Headshrinker

My neighbor just got divorced and she told my wife and I she meet someone on line that really intrigued her. She is the vice-president of a large insurance company and makes quite a good living so we were worried that someone might want to take advantage of her, so I paid a company to investigate this gentleman and found out it was not the person she was in contact with, who said he designed oil rigs. My daughter told her to get him to hold up three forks from his kitchen while they were texting and take a picture. He made excuses and got off the phone. Two hours later, he texted back with a big sign next to him that said, “now you know it’s me.” When my neighbor showed my daughter, my daughter showed her how the picture was probably photoshopped; besides he never showed himself with the forks. When the man was confronted with this information, he became very irate and hung up the phone. Thanks to my daughter, there is no date taking place in NYC this weekend. It could have taken a dangerous turn.

You've got to be forking kidding me.

[Etschell]

Originally Posted by 037

You've got to be forking kidding me.

Poor guy doesn't have 3 forks.

[037]

Originally Posted by Etschell

Poor guy doesn't have 3 forks.

He clearly has trouble getting forked... I mean forks.

Seriously though, humor goes a long way in dating. If she doesn't pay for dinner then she better make me laugh.

[mjr24]

Maybe some of you have and it’s worked out.....but to the younger crowd, a bar is NOT the place to meet someone you want to date seriously.

[037]

Originally Posted by mjr24

Maybe some of you have and it’s worked out.....but to the younger crowd, a bar is NOT the place to meet someone you want to date seriously.

There's another fork joke here but I've run out.

[Etschell]

Originally Posted by 037

There's another fork joke here but I've run out.

I guess I will stick a fork in you then....

[037]

Originally Posted by Etschell

I guess I will stick a fork in you then....

[tudorbaja27]

Originally Posted by The Libertine

I guess I’m “old school”. Met my wife at my first job after graduating from law school. I think there is something to be said for meeting, and getting the chance to know someone in the “real world” (whether at work, at a bar, restaurant, gym, grocery store - wherever) vs. on a dating app over the internet.

I completely agree - meeting people in person is certainly more fun, interesting and exciting! I've never been one to be able to hold an online conversation for too long (i.e. days) without meeting - it defeats the purpose and, at the end of day, you have no idea who you're dealing with

Also - a bunch of psychos online. Well, generally speaking, I think - "real life" as well

[brandrea]

Originally Posted by tyler1980

also dont take advice from someone single

although i dont regret my bachelor days, i dont want to go back.

Amen brother

[gmh1013]

Originally Posted by Headshrinker

My neighbor just got divorced and she told my wife and I she meet someone on line that really intrigued her. She is the vice-president of a large insurance company and makes quite a good living so we were worried that someone might want to take advantage of her, so I paid a company to investigate this gentleman and found out it was not the person she was in contact with, who said he designed oil rigs. My daughter told her to get him to hold up three forks from his kitchen while they were texting and take a picture. He made excuses and got off the phone. Two hours later, he texted back with a big sign next to him that said, “now you know it’s me.” When my neighbor showed my daughter, my daughter showed her how the picture was probably photoshopped; besides he never showed himself with the forks. When the man was confronted with this information, he became very irate and hung up the phone. Thanks to my daughter, there is no date taking place in NYC this weekend. It could have taken a dangerous turn.

OMG makes me think back 30 plus years to a "blind" date i had and my golden rule was no kids! and was told she has no children and was really good looking but came suspicious because she had "wide hips" means kids....it was before cell phones but everybody had a beeper ....somebody paged her from work she said and got up to find a phone....after a min i got up to take number one and she on the phone obviously talking to a very young kid hung up the phone saw me and started bawling... taking her home she asked me why do men refuse to have anything to do with women with kids.....I told her simple....the kid means ex-husbands... problems....the kids are going to hate you because you are not the real daddy....more problems....plus all the money etc....its just not worth the problems....sorry....plus you lied on the first meeting not a good way to start.

[Rolexgal2017]

Originally Posted by mjr24

Maybe some of you have and it’s worked out.....but to the younger crowd, a bar is NOT the place to meet someone you want to date seriously.

I completely agree. I'm done with the bar scene. You do not meet quality people there.

[Rolexgal2017]

Originally Posted by Headshrinker

My neighbor just got divorced and she told my wife and I she meet someone on line that really intrigued her. Thanks to my daughter, there is no date taking place in NYC this weekend. It could have taken a dangerous turn.

Wow, sounds terrifying. How did the investigator find out? Makes me scared of online dating.

Originally Posted by 037

You've got to be forking kidding me.

Originally Posted by Etschell

Poor guy doesn't have 3 forks.

Originally Posted by 037

He clearly has trouble getting forked... I mean forks.

Seriously though, humor goes a long way in dating. If she doesn't pay for dinner then she better make me laugh.

Originally Posted by 037

There's another fork joke here but I've run out.

Originally Posted by Etschell

I guess I will stick a fork in you then....

Lol all of these fork jokes!

[Rolexgal2017]

Originally Posted by gmh1013

OMG makes me think back 30 plus years to a "blind" date i had and my golden rule was no kids! and was told she has no children and was really good looking but came suspicious because she had "wide hips" means kids....

Wide hips mean kids? I'm confused.

[Rolexgal2017]

Originally Posted by The Libertine

I guess I’m “old school”. Met my wife at my first job after graduating from law school. I think there is something to be said for meeting, and getting the chance to know someone in the “real world” (whether at work, at a bar, restaurant, gym, grocery store - wherever) vs. on a dating app over the internet.

I was old school too, but it's very difficult to meet people when you're busy. I don't think its professional to date at work. Bars don't have people looking for the right things (at least around here). It might get awkward if you date someone from the gym and it doesn't work out. The gym is supposed to be my relaxed sanctuary lol.

[Rolexgal2017]

Originally Posted by tudorbaja27

We have a winner, I believe!
My looks have never been an issue

Originally Posted by SN13

This would be an interesting turn of events. We would require a "Together" wristshot at least if you guys go on a date.

Dating wrist shot lol.

Originally Posted by tyler1980

we need to make it happen. If we can talk anyone into buying almost any watch we surely can convince someone to accept a date

[gmh1013]

Originally Posted by Rolexgal2017

Wide hips mean kids? I'm confused.

I had a friend tell me back in my young single days....no kids slender hips...kids makes wide hips...i guess it some truth to it....he had just told me so i was putting it to the test...

[HogwldFLTR]

My wife didn't like me doing it.

[037]

Originally Posted by HogwldFLTR

My wife didn't like me doing it.

Did she do it with someone else instead?

[drumminj]

Met my g/f of 7 years online (via OKCupid) and don't think our lives would have intersected otherwise (oddly enough, she seems to run into people she knows at events related to my interests!).

It's a convenient way to set the odds in your favor, and rather than it be a crap shoot your values/interests align, you can at least be sure you're somewhat aligned to start.

The danger is having a "shopping list" and excluding people outright that may only be a 70% match. Truth is the other 30% doesn't matter, and differences make a relationship interesting, and provide the opportunity to learn/grow from each other.

In my experience it's a balancing act, but a lot better than just hoping to randomly meet people out/at a bar/at the library/etc. But this was all pre-Tinder and such. The landscape may be way different now!

[mjr24]

Originally Posted by Rolexgal2017

I completely agree. I'm done with the bar scene. You do not meet quality people there.

In all seriousness......meeting someone online is not much different than doing anything else online now. Ten years ago, you would have never thought of buying goods online from someone you've never met. Now people sell $100k cars and $20k watches all day long without thinking twice. Sure, sometimes people get burned.

I'm 38 and met my fiance off Tinder 3 years ago and she is a great girl. I think Tinder may be a bit shadier now....but if you live in a big city, Tinder was the fastest/easiest way to go.

I'm 38 so it's fascinating to me. I'm young enough to remember when I first started dating and having to ask for a girl's number and call her to ask her out. It's just amazing how much it has all changed in 20 years or so.....because I know that just isn't how it works anymore.

I mean, you could meet someone ANYWHERE....library, church, etc. etc. We've all heard that. However, we know it's not that easy. I feel at least when meeting someone online....you can do some Googling and find out more info about the person to make sure you aren't in a bad situation off the bat. If you look him up on Facebook and he has 3 kids and his profile says married....then you know he wasn't being honest about being a single bachelor with no kids.

[mjr24]

Originally Posted by Headshrinker

My neighbor just got divorced and she told my wife and I she meet someone on line that really intrigued her. She is the vice-president of a large insurance company and makes quite a good living so we were worried that someone might want to take advantage of her, so I paid a company to investigate this gentleman and found out it was not the person she was in contact with, who said he designed oil rigs. My daughter told her to get him to hold up three forks from his kitchen while they were texting and take a picture. He made excuses and got off the phone. Two hours later, he texted back with a big sign next to him that said, “now you know it’s me.” When my neighbor showed my daughter, my daughter showed her how the picture was probably photoshopped; besides he never showed himself with the forks. When the man was confronted with this information, he became very irate and hung up the phone. Thanks to my daughter, there is no date taking place in NYC this weekend. It could have taken a dangerous turn.

Hope you don't have a daughter!

EDIT: Just saw you do! Feel bad for her boyfriend!

[tyler1980]

Saw this today... be less awkward by not talking to people




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[Zakalwe]

Originally Posted by tyler1980

Saw this today... be less awkward by not talking to people




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Ha! Chatting up a stranger on the Tube is awkward? No s*** whichever advertising executive came up with that! Londoners get twitchy if a stranger makes eye contact on the Tube. It was once stated to me by a Russian guy that “you British are very studious, everybody on the train is always reading a book, or the newspaper.” No Pavel, they’re not actually reading, they’re using the pages as a shield lest they accidentally meet the gaze of a fellow passenger.

If somebody actually starts talking to you on the Underground then it’s pretty safe to assume they’re either a foreigner, asking for money or possessed of a dangerous mental instability. If you’re unlucky it might be all three.

[Headshrinker]

I enjoyed the fork jokes, but seriously, that gesture may have saved my neighbor from a difficult situation. The investigator found the phone numbers did not match the man’s name or address (Manhattan) he had given. I still think “The Forks” were genius when you are only texting a potential date; he may have still been a serial killer, but you will know it’s the right one! I believe my friend should invest in a well-respected dating service if that’s the route she chooses to go for love.
If I lost my wife, I’d just stick to my hobbies and my children. Too much drama for me to handle!

[Art 1]

Originally Posted by Headshrinker

I enjoyed the fork jokes, but seriously, that gesture may have saved my neighbor from a difficult situation. The investigator found the phone numbers did not match the man’s name or address (Manhattan) he had given. I still think “The Forks” were genius when you are only texting a potential date; he may have still been a serial killer, but you will know it’s the right one! I believe my friend should invest in a well-respected dating service if that’s the route she chooses to go for love.
If I lost my wife, I’d just stick to my hobbies and my children. Too much drama for me to handle!

Really you don't know what you would do if you found yourself in that situation. Until and unless your were in it.

[Ruud Van Driver]

Originally Posted by BBL

Don... OP is a gal.

Brilliant!

[Hollie_Rollie]

I have with mixed results. The girl I’m currently with is someone who I met out with friends. But I would certainly try it again if the opportunity presents itself


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[Ruud Van Driver]

Originally Posted by Rolexgal2017

I was old school too, but it's very difficult to meet people when you're busy. I don't think its professional to date at work. Bars don't have people looking for the right things (at least around here). It might get awkward if you date someone from the gym and it doesn't work out. The gym is supposed to be my relaxed sanctuary lol.

Not sure I'd go down the on-line dating route if I was single. Sometimes these things just happen when you least expect them. I met Mrs Van D at Heathrow airport over 19 years ago; I was travelling and she was working. Quite a bizarre story insofar as I had to take a short hop over to Belfast; the flights out of the airport that serve my home city were all full. Next closest airports (Bristol and Birmingham) also all full so the only option was for me to travel almost as far in the opposite direction to London and get on a flight there. As for her, she wanted to take a day's leave, which was denied on the basis of short staff. She requested to work in Internationals but was given Domestics instead. She also should have been on her break at the time of my flight but was asked to work my flight first. To this day, other staff still approach her and ask "are you the one that married a passenger?"

Only advice I can offer is to be safe, use your head and follow your gut.

Good luck