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bayerische · 6 January 2012, 11:17 PM

She might need some time, but don't forget women LOVE to be CHASED!

I think you should show her that you are in-fact interested in her. Don't give up so easily. I got several rejections from my wife when I first met her.

Look where we are now over 9 years later.

Lisa · 6 January 2012, 11:53 PM

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Originally Posted by bayerische

She might need some time, but don't forget women LOVE to be CHASED!

I think you should show her that you are in-fact interested in her. Don't give up so easily. I got several rejections from my wife when I first met her.

Look where we are now over 9 years later.

This is why I shouldn't be giving love-life advice. Nothing in my relationship history was "typical."

I've been married 25 years. I pursued HIM - he was actually interested in someone else when we first met.

As for women loving to be chased - still not sure that's a universal thing... just be very sure she's interested... otherwise you might look more like a stalker than a suitor! Been down that road, too - and it's creepy.

stephentross · 7 January 2012, 12:04 AM

My advice would be depending on what you want the outcome to be. If you are looking for a relationship right now that may end. Continue with your foot on the gas.

If You want a relationship that has a better chance to be long term I would give her space. Maybe even move it into a flirty type of relationship until she gets over her ex. She may even have to go out with someone else for that to happen. You don't want to be mr. rebound and then mr. alone. Be the guy who is there for her after mr. rebound fails.

bayerische · 7 January 2012, 12:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Lisa

This is why I shouldn't be giving love-life advice. Nothing in my relationship history was "typical."

I've been married 25 years. I pursued HIM - he was actually interested in someone else when we first met.

As for women loving to be chased - still not sure that's a universal thing... just be very sure she's interested... otherwise you might look more like a stalker than a suitor! Been down that road, too - and it's creepy.

Of course.

But I think he's seeing the signs that she does like him. Chasing a bit isn't stalking.

Nothing is "universal", I think.

But I still keep my opinion and personal experience on the "Women LOVE to be CHASED".

DiamondJack · 7 January 2012, 12:24 AM

In my experience, the only reason women love to be chased is because they are too shy (and convention says they shouldn't) do the chasing......

This is why the guys who have learned the shark approach of "numbers" and "percentages" do so well....... and why women who fall for them get hurt so often. Once a guy has the skill of picking up girls/women...... I don't really believe that ever leaves them......even when married.....

Women are the ones that in most cases get dressed up and put the effort in...... and then they just wait to be approached...... usually by the "wrong" guys .......

I tell all the girls (looking for a relationship) I know to change the dynamics and approach the guys they are interested in. Why leave it to chance and to the "sharks" to clear up .....?????

This is why internet dating is doing so well as it completely changes the dynamics and randomness of who you meet....... and allows the women and men to choose.

But in answer to the OP's question, definitely call her....... She has stated her interest and for you not to call just looks wierd almost as if you're not bothered either way or have forgotten yourself. If she was a guy you would have called by now.... why would you treat a women you actually want to have a relationshop with any differently...... i dont see it..... But best of luck anyway....

rolexgiants · 7 January 2012, 12:29 AM

Very simple... If she's into you it won't matter what approach you take!!!!

TheVTCGuy · 7 January 2012, 03:24 AM

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otherwise you might look more like a stalker than a suitor! Been down that road, too - and it's creepy.

Lisa, I SWEAR!!!! It was PURE COINCIDENCE you saw me outside your house last night!!!

Gretsch · 7 January 2012, 03:45 AM

Well thanks everyone. It's a no go...she's not ready yet.

Sooo bummed...

bayerische · 7 January 2012, 04:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Gretsch

Well thanks everyone. It's a no go...she's not ready yet.

Sooo bummed...

Plenty of more fish in the sea! (No Pun)

What I mean is, don't make yourself wait, as she might never get ready. Have her as your friend and see what happens up the road, if you meet someone else, then pursue.

Lisa · 7 January 2012, 04:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Gretsch

Well thanks everyone. It's a no go...she's not ready yet.

Sooo bummed...

Sorry to hear this.

But it's not necessarily the end of things, is it?

The Joker · 7 January 2012, 05:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Gretsch

Well thanks everyone. It's a no go...she's not ready yet.

Sooo bummed...

Arhhhhh, was rooting for you bud.

Widows Son · 11 January 2012, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Lisa

That's why he asked the ladies for advice, silly!

Gotcha!!!In addition to not knowing much about women, I can't read either!!

Widows Son · 11 January 2012, 09:47 AM

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Originally Posted by TheVTCGuy

Lisa, I SWEAR!!!! It was PURE COINCIDENCE you saw me outside your house last night!!!

It's not considered stalking until AFTER the protection order!!

Chozn1 · 11 January 2012, 10:37 AM

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Originally Posted by threemonkeys

Ok - fact check - I'm a guy.

You might even say something like 'sorry I didn't hear back from you and I've had to make some other plans this weekend. Would you like to set something up for the next weekend?'

That way you're establishing that you have a life and aren't needy. You want to meet her, it's just that you're in demand due to your highly charged social life. Got it? Don't be needy. Women hate needy. Needy bad. Very bad.

This generalization brought to you not in part but in full by...me.

This. You've put it out there, now slow your roll and see how it plays out. Be available, but not TOO available. She might like you, but needs time after the split. Don't let it get awkward or she won't even want to be around in the group setting. Women like confidence and a man who has things going for him.

stephentross · 11 January 2012, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Gretsch

Well thanks everyone. It's a no go...she's not ready yet.

Sooo bummed...

Sorry, However, Count your blessings... Now - Keep it flirtatious with her, DONT LET IT SLIP INTO THE FRIEND ZONE. You are not shut down at all. You are on standby.

cjohns · 11 January 2012, 10:51 PM

29 years of marriage for me and I still can't do anything right!!!!GOOD LUCK!!!!!Clark.

masterserg · 11 January 2012, 10:54 PM

Bummer.

6 January 2012, 11:17 PM	#31
bayerische "TRF" Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Real Name: Andreas Location: Margaritaville Watch: Smurf Posts: 19,879	She might need some time, but don't forget women LOVE to be CHASED! I think you should show her that you are in-fact interested in her. Don't give up so easily. I got several rejections from my wife when I first met her. Look where we are now over 9 years later. __________________ Yeah, well, you know, that's just, like, your opinion, man.

11 January 2012, 10:54 PM	#47
masterserg "TRF" Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Real Name: Serg Location: US of A Watch: AP Posts: 7,425	Bummer. __________________ How can you have any pudding if you don't eat yer meat????

7 January 2012, 12:04 AM	#33
stephentross 2024 ROLEX DATEJUST41 Pledge Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Southwest USA Watch: Sea Dweller 116600 Posts: 893	My advice would be depending on what you want the outcome to be. If you are looking for a relationship right now that may end. Continue with your foot on the gas. If You want a relationship that has a better chance to be long term I would give her space. Maybe even move it into a flirty type of relationship until she gets over her ex. She may even have to go out with someone else for that to happen. You don't want to be mr. rebound and then mr. alone. Be the guy who is there for her after mr. rebound fails.

7 January 2012, 12:24 AM	#35
DiamondJack "TRF" Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: London Watch: Quite a few Posts: 4,315	In my experience, the only reason women love to be chased is because they are too shy (and convention says they shouldn't) do the chasing...... This is why the guys who have learned the shark approach of "numbers" and "percentages" do so well....... and why women who fall for them get hurt so often. Once a guy has the skill of picking up girls/women...... I don't really believe that ever leaves them......even when married..... Women are the ones that in most cases get dressed up and put the effort in...... and then they just wait to be approached...... usually by the "wrong" guys ....... I tell all the girls (looking for a relationship) I know to change the dynamics and approach the guys they are interested in. Why leave it to chance and to the "sharks" to clear up .....????? This is why internet dating is doing so well as it completely changes the dynamics and randomness of who you meet....... and allows the women and men to choose. But in answer to the OP's question, definitely call her....... She has stated her interest and for you not to call just looks wierd almost as if you're not bothered either way or have forgotten yourself. If she was a guy you would have called by now.... why would you treat a women you actually want to have a relationshop with any differently...... i dont see it..... But best of luck anyway....

7 January 2012, 12:29 AM	#36
rolexgiants "TRF" Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: new york, usa Posts: 2,897	Very simple... If she's into you it won't matter what approach you take!!!!

7 January 2012, 03:45 AM	#38
Gretsch Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Colorado Watch: SubC LV & 16600 Posts: 229	Well thanks everyone. It's a no go...she's not ready yet. Sooo bummed...

11 January 2012, 10:51 PM	#46
cjohns "TRF" Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Real Name: Clark Location: Ramsey Minnesota Watch: GMT Master II Posts: 953	29 years of marriage for me and I still can't do anything right!!!!GOOD LUCK!!!!!Clark.

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