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Abdullah71601 · 20 January 2017, 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Rock

Parents or In-laws - the principle is the same. Either you get along with them or you don't.
My 101 yo Mum lives independently in a retirement village and I visit 3 days a week and look after all medical issues, shopping, cleaning, etc. She loves it there and that is good as we could not live with her in our home.
When our time comes to be dependent, we would expect to do the same thing as we would not want to live with our kids.
Intergenerational living seems to work best for people who either come from that culture or are VERY laid-back. We are neither.

It could be too much coffee rock. Have you tried cutting back?

Rock · 20 January 2017, 02:29 PM

HA!!! Yeah, you could be right!
No, couldn't be without my coffee. Give up the grog first.

Porter · 21 January 2017, 03:31 AM

Luckily I'm blessed with my mother in law! She adopted me like another son in the family. I love her and passed several months with at home without problem!
Enjoy your freedom!!!!

"Time flies like an arrow. Fruit flies like a banana". Groucho Marx.

handsfull · 21 January 2017, 08:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Cerachrom12

In your opinion, do you feel that is an obligation to take care of elderly parents?
Even if it places a conflict between you and your spouse?
I have one child (10 years old), and I would NEVER expect her and her prospective husband to feel obligated to take care of me when I'm old and in the last year's of life. If the situation is a mutual agreement, then these things work. Hypothetical scenarios are easy to comment on.
But I have personally lived through this situation for 7 years of my life. And it was forced upon me without choice. Well, I did have a choice. Called separate and divorce.

G: Your view is reasonable and prudent.

On the other hand, your wife giving such ultimatums is just plain wrong.

Although, it is good for one to have such deep insight into their relationship early on. Makes for good planning.

Stuntpilot · 21 January 2017, 08:31 AM

I lost my mother in 2003 to cancer. My father in 2012. My wife's mother passed of cancer when she was in high school. I am 42 my wife is 39. Her Dad is near 80, but she has many siblings. We are going to be spared that burden. It is one of the few breaks I have had. However, I would rather have them all back.

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21 January 2017, 03:31 AM	#63
Porter "TRF" Member Join Date: Nov 2015 Real Name: Carlos Location: Eivissa Watch: Rolex, Tudor.... Posts: 1,635	Luckily I'm blessed with my mother in law! She adopted me like another son in the family. I love her and passed several months with at home without problem! Enjoy your freedom!!!! "Time flies like an arrow. Fruit flies like a banana". Groucho Marx.

21 January 2017, 08:31 AM	#65
Stuntpilot Banned Join Date: May 2015 Location: MS Posts: 373	I lost my mother in 2003 to cancer. My father in 2012. My wife's mother passed of cancer when she was in high school. I am 42 my wife is 39. Her Dad is near 80, but she has many siblings. We are going to be spared that burden. It is one of the few breaks I have had. However, I would rather have them all back.

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