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19 January 2017, 11:41 AM | #1 |
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Married men; have you ever been forced to live with your mother in law?!
Unfortunately happened to me. My wife's father passed away and she insisted her mother move in with us! 7 long years later, God has truly blessed me. She is gone. Decided to move to Alabama and live with her sister. I am finally liberated. My house is finally mine again. I am so giddy I really don't know how to handle this. Been a long time friends!
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My mom, who is loosing her eyesight moved in with us. It has been very hard for lots of reasons. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. My wife is a saint, and actually is dealing with it better than I. Thank god I travel lots with my work or I'd go nuts. I'm glad you got your home and life back. It's lots of responsibility you don't really want or need. My other siblings are to screwed up to be of any help. Rant off.
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I turned off that idea when the signs were beginning to show. I said no way.
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Our family supports parents. Both my wife and I would welcome our elderly parents into our home rather than lock them up in some old folks home to whither and die.
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The Mother in-law or your wife moved out?
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Some of those assisted-living/rest-home environments strike me as little more than overpriced purgatories for the elderly who aren't quite ready to meet their maker. Despite their advertised activities and social outlets, I would imagine that many of these facilities can actually shorten one's life. |
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In my case, I have one parent who would burn my house to the ground if I did not let them live with me, and one who would burn it down if I did.
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Tried this argument decades ago while being reprimanded as a teenager. The concept didn't fly.
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This thread is too funny.
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FWIW, I would NEVER move in with my daughter and her future husband and impose on their marriage, especially if HE did not want me there. I have definitely learned what NOT to do in the future. My mother in law has given me a different perspective on things. Last edited by Cerachrom12; 19 January 2017 at 01:14 PM.. Reason: Addendum |
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I come from a hispanic culture where taking care of your parents in their old age was a long set custom. My mother's generation was the last that really was expected to do this.
My cousin cared for her mother for the last 10 years of her life and, as much as she loved her mother, was very direct in telling other family members that this way of life was far too difficult in the current times of two working spouses, kids, financial pressures etc... My mother and her remaining siblings took this to heart and were willing to accept that while they could be close to their kids and involved in the family, the needs of constant care need to be met with additional caregivers. While the kids contribute to this care according to their means they are also able to meet the needs of their own kids.
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Our parents are in their 80's and remain independent and active. They aren't ready to be looked after, but when they are, they know they will be looked after by family. |
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Cudos to you, I couldn't do it. My current MIL has too much of an entitlement attitude for me to ever feel comfortable for her to live in my house. Plus the fact that she has ZERO respect for personal property makes it a complete no go on my end. My circumstance is purely limited to her personality, I don't think I have it in my heart to permanently ban all MILs, I just don't have one that's tolerable for a live in situation.
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Not yet, I could not live with myself to put my mum in a home, unless it was completely necessary.
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i'm lucky with parents and in-laws who would never ask to move in because they themselves didn't like their parents living with them when they were young. so, since we're blessed with being able to afford it, and since they're positive influences on my kids; my wife and i agreed that we would buy both our parents condos in our kids' names to live close by. after they ride their Rascals to St.Peter's gates, the kids have their starter homes ready to use or keep as revenue properties. we told the parents that that's their shared gift to the kids -- and fwiw, its turned out to be a good business decision before they even move in. |
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My mom went a little nuts after my dad died. She hooked up with a real jewel. They came for a visit and the motor home got damaged. She was supposed to be with me for a month. She left while I was at work with her boyfriend after two weeks and went to my sisters house.
My hubby didn't have to run her off. I did. Now I have no beds in my extra rooms. If my family wants to visit they stay in a hotel. My sister and my mom are visiting for Mardi Gras this year. I paid for the brother in laws charter fishing trip. They are paying the hotel. After 21 years living with them it was way enough for me. I can't do it. We have a good time but trapped in one house it's a cat fight. My husband gets along with them. I love them but can only do a few days. Now if something happened and my mom needed nursing care we would pay for assisted living and visit daily. I know how bad things are if you don't go every day.
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Interesting thread. The relationship you have with your in laws or parents make the difference. It would have to be a mutual decision with my wife and not forced upon me.
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Fortunately, my mother in law just turned 49 and is a long way from needing to move in with her children.
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