bored with life...

[andreturning]

Backround-26 year old single male from CT.I'm in real estate.Lately everything just seems to be not as exciting anymore. Business deals don't get me going anymore.I have plenty of money saved so maybe that's why I'm not as motivated.Should i focus on finding a partner and starting a family? Going out to bars all the time with my buddy's is getting old. A lot women up here care about money and status.Not me i would marry a girl who works at Walmart if shes smart and would make a great mother/partner lol i feel lost.I just turned 26 so maybe I'm having a midlife in my twenties crisis.

[Relyt]

Cocaine..... JK JK JK.

Well, you may have finally just gotten into a good place.

When I get stale with work I pick up another hobby or two that brings the excitement back.

Sure, look for a girl! Just look in the right places. It sounds like you have everything in order, just make sure not to throw it away.


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[rootbeer7]

I don't know whether to be jealous of you or pity you!!!!!

[texex91]

Buy a Ferrari and enjoy.

If you are still bored with that, then you may seek some help.

[Etschell]

Originally Posted by Relyt

Cocaine..... JK JK JK.

i laughed.

in reality yes might be a good time to change.

[superstarmar]

Go to Eastern Europe in a small village and find an
honest working girl ... beautiful too , lol..

Romania, Ukraine maybe Bulgaria...
say you moved to Europe at first for awhile and don't
mention America ... There are a lot of good girls
looking for the right partner that want a happy
comfortable life and want a family ... just a thought .
I've met couples like this and are very happy together ...

[Chewbacca]

do a costanza.

every decision you make must be the opposite of your first instinct.

eat eggs and bacon every day? change it to oatmeal and fruit.

are you passive aggressive? don't be, call out all BS.

and so forth...

it works.

[cdmorenot]

I'm 28 and there was a time at around 25 ish when I felt the same way as you did.

Travel the world, meet new people, get yourself out there and away from anything that is comfortable to you. You'll discover yourself and you'll discover what it is that truly makes you happy.

I have a three year old kid now, a marriage that I didn't put enough effort into and let go down the drain but most importantly, I am as happy as I have ever been.

Sometimes we become prisoners of our routines. Renew your passport, get a bottle of Whistlepig and jump on a plane, or out of a plane!

Oh, and if all of the above fails, google "Medellin VIP"

[SearChart]

Quit your job and go basejumping.

[Chewbacca]

btw, ... the title is a bit depressing... cheer up and start the costanza therapy.

[brandrea]

A new watch always cheers me up

Seriously though, it never hurts to do a little thinking about your priorities and make changes to your life for the better. Are your friends really friends? If you find your work isn't as challenging any more, shake things up.

Your 26 and the world is your oyster (no pun intended).

[TheBluePrince]

Quit and go travelling for six months while you're still young. No need to find a partner (if that's what you want) until you're at least 30.

[The Joker]

Originally Posted by rootbeer7

I don't know whether to be jealous of you or pity you!!!!!

[enjoythemusic]

Get a sexy young yet crazy girlfriend with LOTS of drama attached. That'll cure your boredom. JK!!!

Yeah, it happens, you reach goals and money is awesome yet.... Take a month off and rent a car in Europe. Have ZERO plans and just drive, letting GPS take you to whereever you want to go.

[GradyPhilpott]

Sell everything you own, give your money to the poor, move back home, and start over.

If that's too extreme, go back to school and major in whatever interests you most that has nothing to do with money.

Either path should spice things up a bit.

[bsodmike]

Originally Posted by andreturning

Not me i would marry a girl who works at Walmart if shes smart and would make a great mother/partner lol i feel lost.I just turned 26 so maybe I'm having a midlife in my twenties crisis.

This has been gnawing at me lately as well. I've got a disability which puts off the ladies (and my saying that shows how much I'm psychologically scarred but it!) given that those that I come across seem to be interested in men that look like the chap in Deadpool (or some GQ model).

I'd be happy with someone with a dark sense of humor, wicked wit, spontaneous, loves going on trips say across the country or spending the day doing a Netflix marathon. Someone that truly appreciates the simple pleasures in life.

[Etschell]

id get one of those mail order brides like paul got.

[locutus49]

I had a similar state of mind in my early 20's. Based on a friend's recommendation I joined the Army and a whole world opened up to me. The structure and discipline really helped me when I needed it. And I continued college and graduate school while in, with the Army paying for most of it.

[Knappo 1307]

Maybe it's low T...

[jhilly8982]

No joke, but buy a few books and do some reading. It will really occupy your mind and be enriching. An interesting topic that I like is behavioral economics. Basically why people do what they do.

A few of my favorites.

-Predictably Irrational
-Superforecasting
-An Economist gets Lunch

[enjoythemusic]

Originally Posted by bsodmike

I'd be happy with someone with a dark sense of humor, wicked wit, spontaneous, loves going on trips say across the country or spending the day doing a Netflix marathon. Someone that truly appreciates the simple pleasures in life.

www.seekingarrangement.com

[El-Duderino]

Have you tried buying watches? :)

Yeah, I think we all have those moments in life where we have an existential crisis. Hard to say what is the best path for you to take.

From personal experience, never look to a relationship as the solution to all your problems. I find that you have to be happy with yourself before you can truly be happy in a relationship. Getting to that place is the hard part.

You also need to decide if you are unhappy or depressed. Depression is a really hard thing to manage without help.

Instead of a major life change, I'd recommend trying some little changes first to see if they might help: exercise 3-4 times per week, volunteer with a charity of your choice as helping others does tend to help you, go outside for at least 30 minutes a day as low Vitamin D might lead to a condition known as seasonal affective disorder.


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[GradyPhilpott]

Originally Posted by El-Duderino

Instead of a major life change, I'd recommend trying some little changes first to see if they might help....

Good advice.

[Tarandy]

A lot of people in your position turn to cross dressing, not my cup of tea but there are some lovely ladies Rolex's to be had

[cdmorenot]

Originally Posted by Tarandy

A lot of people in your position turn to cross dressing, not my cup of tea but there are some lovely ladies Rolex's to be had

[Headshrinker]

You need to stop looking for women in bars. Perhaps, take a college class, join a gym, or a church. Try things outside your comfort zone. Make a goal, like running 10 miles, and set a schedule. You are at the most creative time in your life; take advantage.

[andreturning]

Originally Posted by Tarandy

A lot of people in your position turn to cross dressing, not my cup of tea but there are some lovely ladies Rolex's to be had

Don't think i will ever be that bored with life as far as quitting my job i am self employed/business owner.I think i may just try to mix up the routine to spark some excitement.No low T went to the doctors healthy as a horse, But I could stand to lose a few pounds (started jogging everyday for the last month.)

[F1polesitter]

It sounds like you're experiencing symptoms, but haven't analysed the cause. Sit down in a quiet place, without distraction, and try to work out what you feel is missing in your life. Imagine your perfectly happy self, and deconstruct what exactly this version of you have vs the current you. The people he's surrounded by, the type of things he does, his profession, whatever you feel is important. It helps to put thought to paper sometimes. Give it a try if you haven't, and try to be as concrete in your ideas as possible.

If it's excitement you're lacking. Go travelling. Not sure where? put up a map and throw a dart at it. Google up "places to see before you die" etc.

If it's longing for a partner to share your success, try a different method of meeting girls than what you're used to. If you don't like the girls you're meeting, it may be because your methods attract a certain type of personality (ex. girls who are into money go to bars to meet guys etc.).

I hesitate to suggest this, because you need to be completely committed to go this route... but consider getting a dog. There's no animal that's more capable of bringing you joy than man's best friend. But if you do this, know that a dog is with you for his/her life. If you can't commit to this, then don't do it.

[cop414]

Originally Posted by cdmorenot

Travel the world, meet new people, get yourself out there and away from anything that is comfortable to you. You'll discover yourself and you'll discover what it is that truly makes you happy.

Sometimes we become prisoners of our routines. Renew your passport, get a bottle of Whistlepig and jump on a plane, or out of a plane!

Originally Posted by locutus49

I had a similar state of mind in my early 20's. Based on a friend's recommendation I joined the Army and a whole world opened up to me. The structure and discipline really helped me when I needed it. And I continued college and graduate school while in, with the Army paying for most of it.

Excellent advice above x2.

[MonBK]

I'm bored with this thread.

Call Dr. Phil.